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writes:Seriously, I am not the type of person who comes off as being rude. I need to tell a married man whom I have been friends with for a year to stop calling me. I have ignored him but he just won't catch on. I've told him that the situation we are in is not good. I am not having sex with him so I don't see the big deal of him going away. He's not stalking me or anything-just still hanging around. It shouldn't bother me but the fact that he talks about sex with me does. I thought if you ignore a man, who you haven't had sex with, will go away. He can easly get sex from someone else so why keep bothering me. I'm irritated cause I know that's all he wants and nothing else. I like him as a person and can look pass the sex. Why can't he do the same? Because he is so sexually attracted to me, I need to tell him to get lost. My feelings are hurt cause I want him to see me as a person-not a piece of booty. I carry myself like a lady so why not get the treatment.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 January 2010):
He's a married man who wants to think he's still 'got it', which means giving up will be hard for him. So spell it out. Tell him, to his face, you are not interested in him sexually and he should go home to his wife. And if he continues, tell him you will have to tell his wife.
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reader, the_phoenic +, writes (9 January 2010):
ignoring him well get him more and more excited in you..
you need to talk with him clearly and honestly about exactly what you want from him and what you real expect form you friendship,
and during this talk you should be serious and put on cloths that cover most of your body
and dont be so friendly wiht him, so it would be clear and he wont get mixed singals..
good luck.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (9 January 2010):
Okay, so ignoring didn't work...I take it that is was for an extended period of time before you decided that it didn't work? Sometimes we have to be the "bad guy" and if he's just not getting it when you ignore him, then you NEED to tell him. For all you know he thinks you're playing hard-to-get so he's not taking the hint. You don't have to come off as rude, but just be direct and tactful. You can't expect him to read your mind. If he still doesn't get it after that, then I think it's time to change your number.
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