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writes: Hi I am dating the girl of my dreams and she is my 1st girlfriend and i want her to be the only one because i believe in true love. But i constantly worry alot thinking this cannot happen something will happen to keep us apart and end up thinking i have to breakup with her but I really love her and she is dead in love with me I constantly worry an worry that something will keeping us apart my soul purpose is to keep her happy.Please help me deal with this problem im scared it will just eat me up and I never want to lose her please provide some valuable tips. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHank you so much guys yourll are amazing!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, Beingblack  +, writes (11 July 2009):
 I am always saying what a funny thing human nature is. We strive for something, find it, then spend hours locked in fear and dread worrying that we might lose it.
You have been well and truly struck by love. Now you are so terrified of losing it, that you want to end it, in case you lose it!
Stop worrying, or you will make yourself ill.
Big dog Cerberus is right. Why are you spending so much time worrying about what MIGHT happen? In your mind, you can invent a million things that 'might' happen. Focus on what has happened already, and enjoy your life NOW.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): Worrying is the most useless of activities, it serves absolutely no purpose at all. Worrying is the irrational fear that bad things will happen just because they can and that makes no sense.
The problem with worrying is it can hold you back from actually enjoying what you have. So you must learn to accept the possibility that something bad might happen and also that something bad might never happen. The easiest way to do this is to think rationally about the things that worry you, it is pointless to worry about things that you can't change or prevent, so it is best to just let yourself be happy and deal with problems as they arise.
The sun could explode tomorrow and end all life on this planet, does that mean we should worry about it? No. You can find a million things in this life to worry about especially now that you've found something really special in your life, it is easy to worry because you know how devestating it would be to lose that, but by worrying you're missing out on how great this is for you.
Stop focusing on the negative possibilities and start focusing on how brilliant your life is now. Believe me if something in the future does happen to keep you both apart you'd be much happier knowing you were able to have a brilliant time in your life, rather than spending the whole time freaking out waiting for something bad to happen.
Relax and enjoy, you might never get an opportunity like this again, don't ruin it for yourself by worrying.
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reader, MonksDaBomb  +, writes (11 July 2009):
 Hi! You say this is your first girlfriend, so there's a bit of fear of the unkown going here. If you're a worrier and a doubter like I am, it's natural to get these thoughts racing around up there. Almost like the typical "cold feet" before a wedding.
Just calm down, take a deep breath, and just love your girlfriend - be there for her, etc. I guarantee you she will love you back and you won't have to worry about something happening to the two of you.
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