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writes:ok, I am in a long distance relationship (I am at university, and do my best to see my partner when I can). When I go back home to see him, he insists on spending most of his time with his family every weekend (I don't get invited). I find myself often just sitting in an empty house when visiting. I haven't said anything, I don't know if I'm just being possessive, but I feel a little hurt as I can only get up once every 6 weeks or so, when he can see his family any weekend. This weekend it turns out he is spending the whole weekend with them, he had planned it beforehand but didn't tell me, so I'm not even goin to see him at all! Am I just being possessive? or should I talk to him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks very much to you both for the help. I have sort of approached him with it and think its more him being thoughtless..this time I'll speak to him properly about it.
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (11 July 2009):
 I think that you should definitely talk to him and let him know how you feel. It's very thoughtless of him to make alternate plans and not tell you about them especially since you don't get up there that often. Why doesn't he invite you to see his family?
Anyway, I'd start with the talk first and see if his behavior changes. If he does it again, you know for sure that he doesn't value you or your time, and then you'll have the information to act accordingly.
Good luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (11 July 2009):
I think he's being selfish.... or a bit of an idiot and not realising.
You should maybe just tell him you are not coming home if you are not going to get to see him.
Then ask him to plan a weekend where it will just be the 2 of you and book it in advance so his family knows he is busy.
I think if you are with someone you should want to see them, so you have to ask yourself why he doesn't care about seeing you. Does he care as much as he claims?
Good Luck!! xx
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