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writes:I keep having dreams about my boyfriend where he turns into a complete loser. But he's nothing like this in real life. In my dreams he turns into a complete drunk, shouts abusive things all the time, and even cheats on me with my friends right in front of me. These are recurring dreams. Why am I having them?? My boyfriend is absolutely nothing like this, and to be honest, the dream version of him sounds a lot more like my dad than him!! Creepy or what?? What does this mean?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know it's been a while now, but TEM your analysis was right on the money. It turned out my boyfriend was lying to me the whole time but I didn't find that out until many months (and many dreams) later. Guess my subconscious was trying to tell me something.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey,thanks for the help :) I think you're right somewhat, I think maybe I'm just scared that the time and effort I'm putting into my relationship will turn out to be a waste if my boyfriend turns out to not be worth it. And yes, my dad is an alcoholic and growing up with him was difficult and I've always been self-dependant. This is my first relationship and the inter-dependence thing is a bit much for me I guess :/ my bf seems to understand though
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reader, BriBri  +, writes (7 April 2011):
Has he been acting strange lately?Have you experienced someone like this before?And anywas their probably just some stuid dreams.
Hope i helped.:))
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reader, TEM +, writes (7 April 2011):
 Have you ever had an experience with someone like this? Were you traumatized by an abusive drunk in your past? It doesn't have to have been a boyfriend, it could have been a relative.
Your reoccurring dream represents a deep seated fear or hurt. You don't say how long you have been going out with your boyfriend, but my guess it has been under a year. I believe you have the fear that he might surprise you by being something he is not.
Dreams don't often represent our reality. Sometimes they represent those things we won't allow ourselves to think during our waking moments. These things often pop up in our dreams, because our psyche wants to deal with it. Your dream might not even have anything to do with your boyfriend. Your fear may simply be that someone will betray your trust by misrepresenting themselves. Your dreaming mind might have just chose your boyfriend to represent this fear, as that would be the worst, wouldn't it? That would be the greatest betrayal of trust in your life at the moment.
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reader, Amy.. +, writes (7 April 2011):
I hear that if you remember your dream in the morning that it never comes true.. If that helps..
-Amy..
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