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36-40,
*eldana
writes:Hey guys, it's me again. Well, a guy broke up with me about 7 months ago and I haven't heard from him since. 2 days after the break up (which was a bad break up) he was in a relationship with this girl (Who I suspect he was cheating on me to begin with.) The break-up occured on a email via facebook but he never said anything to me face to face. Anyways he's moved (about 7 hours) away and she is now pregnant and I never got the closure I felt I deserved. I still feel some way about this guys because he was my first love and first real relationship (and first all around). I'm in a rebound kind of relationship now but I still feel angry and revengeful some days. Other days I don't really care, and some even more days I want to try and be his friend. It doesn't help that my Bf is friends with him and chats with him on facebook. He (my ex) is friends with a whole bunch of people that I know including my brothers. Anyways....Here's the question. When is it too late for revenge, When is it too late for closure (even though I don't think he will ever give it to me) And when can I try and ask to be his friend. I wouldn't mind not being his friend if everybody else wasn't he friend (or at least some of my friends) Ps, the guy I am with right now treats me right, he's just extremely jealous of my ex. I've tried to come to terms on my own it's just near impossible.
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reader, meldana +, writes (7 April 2011):
meldana is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's just, I really want to know if it was me or if was just the relationship was a failure to start with. he was 34 I was 22. He wanted a family I didn't. He wanted to party, I wanted to study, I was extremely sexual, he wasn't and he hated that side of me. I tried to please him. it never worked. I just wanted to know if he hated what he had to do. One other thing, he's happy. I'm not.It's hard letting go but every day it gets better. What happens if you have a relapse day how do you handle it?
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reader, Naley1289 +, writes (7 April 2011):
 Wow, I am very sorry to hear that he left you and then jumped into a relationship with the next girl. If I have learnesd anything in my 22 years of living I'd have to say that things happen for a reason. IF he was cheating on you then let karma bite him in the ass hun. Everything done on Earth is one way or another dealt with it. Do not take matters into your own hands because you won't feel any better, trust me. You don't want to show him that you still care. I know what's its like to love someone and they leave you and you don't have any closure. Why do you say that he won't give you closure? Did he say anything to you? Why do you suspect they were together while you guys were together? Did he ever give you any reasons why he left you? I'm here for you if you want to talk.
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