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writes: please someone give me some advice im a real nice decent guy, im honest and im, said modestly, good looking. im quite shy although i can hide this by being over confident but in general when it comes to the opposite sex im quiet and have always struggled to get a girlfriendthe problem i have is i tend to always fall for people.. people that show the slightest interest in me i suddenly keep falling for them - people at work and so on.. i know this is stupid but it really gets me down and maked me feel depressed please help
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reader, Calidus +, writes (18 December 2005):
I know EXACTLY how you feel, you need someone there to be with, but because of your attitudes you push them away making yourself feel lonly and insecure, so when a person shows interest in you, you take this as a meaning that maybe that person could be the person you need to hold onto and be with.. I know it can be hard, but try being freinds with them get to know them, before you make your move, or maybe if you become freinds with these people, and open up a little, and if their interested in the beginning maybe seeing even just a little of you will make them make the 1st move, which is probably best in some cases rather then rejection and a ruined freindship/potential freindship.. If you see someone you like or are interested in, try and spark up a convo and ask emm out, try not to just go for the people who show you interest 1st.. It may be embarressing but if it does work out at least you'll of made the move for someone your interested in and not the other way around.
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reader, elmino +, writes (18 December 2005):
Well my man, i too suffer from this problem.Maybe not as much as when i was younger(i'm, 32),but yeah any girl that i meet,or happen to spend time around alot ,like a co worker, friends ex's,etc,etc.And i'd like to tell you a quick fix,but there isn't.Only a long process of you always giving and trying to be sincere when all that is happening is you being taken advantage of for your kindness.You're not really falling head over heels.If you could see into the future with most of the girls you think you're falling for. You would'nt want to be with them anyways.Don''''t stop being that caring ,sensitive, guy though.Just be more aware of the girl your sharing it with.Its hard .
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