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writes: Hi, I have been going out with my girlfriend for little over a week now (I know it's not really that long) but I am finding it hard to make the forward advances or be myself round her. I really do like her and don't really want to lose her through my shyness, but I don't think I am shy. I do make the moves, I just don't feel comfortable as she hasn't made a move yet. She was the one that told me she liked me and I was thinking since the time she told me and me asking her out could she have lost interest? Although she does flirt a lot still. Can you please give me some advace on how to overcome this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2006): I know exactly what you mean, im going through the same thing right now.Girls are mysterious, and beyond common belief girls are not all the same.If you dont make any moves she might lose interest in you and move on. Shy guys like you and move know all the moves, and can be as smooth as ice, but were afraid of failure, and what other people think.So forget what people think, and start slow...grab her hand, and work from there.If she really likes you she is probaly waiting for a move from you. It is messed up..guys have to do everything, we make the moves,dats,ect.. and girls like confident guys.
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reader, Calidus +, writes (18 December 2005):
trying to have sex after a week? or am i missunderstanding... maybe the girl shy about herself or doesnt want sex with someone she only recently met, if you dont mean sex then, she may still be shy, its your job to try and let her know ur interested in her and just want ti be around her with, try talking alot online/phone is easy or on dates as well
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2005): Dude, she told you she liked you. Do you have any idea how vulnerable that makes a girl feel? She needs you to pursue her a little bit to help her know that you really do like her, and it's not just something that seemed convenient. It's hard for a girl to make the first move, and it's REALLY hard when the guy doesn't follow up with some serious reciprocity. Don't do anything too over the top, but definitely try to be a little assertive about your feelings / wanting to be with her. Ask her on a real date somewhere. Doesn't need to be anything too fancy - dinner, movie, whatever. Just something to make clear that you want to take her on a date. And be sweet about it.
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reader, kcrankypants +, writes (18 December 2005):
hey there. your right, a week isn't very long but it is possible that she is just as shy. i went out with one guy for a year and i still was too shy to make the first moves. its all about rejection. maybe the girl is a little bit insecure that you may reject her even knowing that you like her. girls are weird that way.....oh wait, maybe thats just me, ha ha. good luck. i'm sure you have nothing to worry about. just relax and be yourself.
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