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writes:This year i took drama and when i walked into my class there sat the boy who I haven't been able to put my feelings straight for more than a week. He's cute and nice. We both share unique views on life but he is way more popular than me. He isn't a good kid either, he doesn't do his work and lately he had a girlfriend for two weeks had sex with her and dumped her, because she was always trying to please him. The problem is I keep falling for him, and it's driving me crazy. He does all this stuff that makes my heart melt, like the other day in maths we were talking about needles and he said that he had a dream that i was at the dentist and they were going to give me a shot in my mouth and he was trying to calm me down.we walk to lunch every day together, and we never run out of things to say.What do I do? Because I know he will never love me back and i need a guy i can depend on, to be there.I'm so confused. What would you do in my situation is my question i guess? Reply to this Question
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reader, sunandstars  +, writes (19 December 2011):
You've basically answered your own question, you've come up with a big negative: "He isn't a good kid either, he doesn't do his work and lately he had a girlfriend for two weeks had sex with her and dumped her, because she was always trying to please him." which to me outweighs the positive, so don't go out with him. He may seem all sweet but he could take advantage of you in exactly the same way, perhaps he played the nice guy to this other girl and then did that to her? He doesn't sound like one to date to me, I'd stay out of his way!
Best of luck :)
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reader, angelalb +, writes (16 December 2011):
Just be friends. Sound like you are youg and let me tell you when I had my first real relationship at 15 I thought I was in love too. It lasted 6 months and then he broke it off. I was hearbroken but got over it once I realized I would fall in love again. He doesn't sound like a guy who cares about women he just uses them for sex then dumps them. You could do better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2011): I think you know deep down that this guy wouldn't be a good boyfriend for you.
I can understand why he seems so alluring; he's popular, he's charming, he's a bit of a bad boy – yep, I think every girl's fallen for one of *those* at one point or another! But consider him objectively: "he had a girlfriend for two weeks and had sex with her and dumped her, because she was always trying to please him." Oh dear... he may be, as you say, cute and nice, but that's a terrible way to treat a girl, isn't it?
My advice would be to keep him as a friend. You'll get to enjoy his company without risking the heartbreak that his previous girlfriend did. Of course, if you feel that it's more painful that way – that friendship alone wouldn't be enough for you – then do try to put some distance between you. Don't date him though. "I know he will never love me back and I need a guy I can depend on, to be there." If that's what you truly want, then don't compromise on it for the sake of a boy who'd "love" you and leave you. There will be others :) Good luck and take care x
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