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writes:My ex husband was very emotionally cruel and sometimes physically. I was with him for a long time and have been seperated from him for 3 months and not seen him at all in this time. I am determined never to go back this time but the thing now is that I am sometimes having very bad dreams where he is being very emotionally cruel to me and then I wake up quite upset, does anybody know what this is all about?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): I agree with Beckto, you need to see a therapist counselor. It sounds like you have post traumatic stress syndrome and nightmares is a key symptom of it. It can also affect your personality in many ways that you're unaware of. Post traumatic stress needs to be treated and worked through.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (17 July 2007):
 I just want to tell you how glad I am you escaped! Good for you and I hope you have all the best in the future. The bad dreams will fade as you start to bloom. You go girl!
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (17 July 2007):
It's early days for you girly, but the good news is that you are free from harm. Three months is not enough time for you to forget your past and maybe there are issues you need to work through before you can lay them to rest. The mind is a strange thing and subconsciously our brain ponders problems while we sleep, hence the appearance of bad dreams. My granny always used to tell me to reverse any bad dreams I had. In effect, if your dreams are scary and bad, you can rest assured that it means you wont ever have to suffer the terror again for real in your waking life.
Don't waste any time worrying about this. Make a plan for the future. List the things you always wanted to achieve and take part in (both whimsical and possible) and start living your life for you. Get counselling if you need it and rally your friends around you. The danger had passed and now it's time to be yourself.
Remember: YESTERDAY IS HISTORY, TOMORROW'S A MYSTERY...AND TODAY IS A GIFT.
let me know how you get on.
Good luck
Aunty Em x
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reader, Beckto +, writes (17 July 2007):
 It's your subconscious' way of working out your own personal trauma. Three months isn't a very long time to be away from an abuser.
Have you been going to a counselor/psychiatrist about this? Abuse, be it emotional and/or physical, is something that one can't process on their own. It takes a professional's help.
Please, please, please go see someone about this. It wasn't your fault that you were abused. But, now you need to own it, and accept the fact that you have to work through the trauma inflicted on you.
These dreams could last forever if left unaddressed. But, at least seeing a professional who can help walk you through recovery, will give you the chance to let the dreams subside.
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (17 July 2007):
 Hi there babes,
When someone goes through a tramatic experience like you have you can get flash backs, just give it time they will eventually pass but good for you for having the strenght to get out of a relationship like this, now its time to put the past to rest start a great new life that you truely deserve, well done you!!!
Love Donna
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