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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now. We have a great relationship, we both treat each other very well. Except I sometimes cheat on him with one guy. I don't know why. This other guy doesn't treat me nearly as well as my boyfriend, we just have fun. I don't feel guilty when I do it, only afterwards. I can't seem to stop myself when ever I see this guy. What's wrong with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): Your post is an interesting contradiction. "You have a great relationship" and "you treat each other really well" ....but you cheat on your boyfriend? If you had, or did, either of your claims you would not cheat - it would not even cross your mind to. You really should work out why you cheat. Fact is you don't have a great relationship and you are treating your boyfriend of 2 years like a fool and have no respect for him or yourself. How would you feel if your boyfriend was trying to work out why he kept cheating with this one particular girl? You do have a choice don't you. You need to make a decision. Stop cheating, keep your boyfriend or end your relationship and see this other guy instead.
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reader, sofia30  +, writes (15 June 2009):
Put it this way how wud u feel if ur bf was doing it to u!
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reader, trini  +, writes (15 June 2009):
You sound like my ex girlfriend. Except I was the boyfriend and she happened to get pregnant by the other guy. The thing that had hurt me the most was the lies. If she wasn't truly happy with me alone I wish she would've just broken up with me. And I think that you should do the same. Or at least tell him what you've been doing so that he can have the choice of either trying to make it work with you or breaking up with you. You at least owe him the truth.
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reader, ALONSO80  +, writes (15 June 2009):
I think it's the best if you break up with your BF and I guess try it with this guy
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): Whats wrong with you? May be you are born ahead of your time? I think in a few centuries open relationships will be the norm. Since your relationship is not open, obviously you need to stop what you are doing. So, why do you do that when it can jeopardize your relationship with your boyfriend? That too when the guy is not treating you that well. May be it is because the guy doesnt care much about you. Why "playing hard to get" works? Because humans love challenges. Winning a girl/guy who doesnt care much about one feeds one's ego better than the love of a guy/girl who is there for the taking. You need to stop it or tell your boyfriend about it. There is nothing wrong with you. Feeling weak before the attraction of sex is something most of us humans who through, especially when we are young. You just need to prevent it and avoid it until you are strong enough to face such temptations. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): Well you clearly don't treat you guy as well as you claimIf you really loved him you wouldn't be doing this. Next time you see the guy you need to imagine how you would feel if you found out your boyfriend was doing the same to you and remind yourself how you feel after.If your boyfriend ever finds out he will probably dump you - is that what you really want?Be aware too this guuy could have other sexual partners and you could give your boyfriend an STD. Not all are protected by condoms (such as pubic lice) and condoms can split. What if you got pregnant and didn't know whose it was? Contraception doesn't always work
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (15 June 2009):
 maybe you like the excitement of this guy it's something different gives you a bit of adrenaline.
but maybe if you keep cheating on your boyfriend you should perhaps end it with him.
it's not really fair on him and especially if this guy is the TOTAL opposite of your current boyfriend.
maybe you're not looking for a relationship as you've said with this guy you "just have fun"
maybe that's all you are looking for.
Hope this helps.
x x x x x :)
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