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writes: Well ive been told that i was ugly, flat chested, and flat butt. It really hurts. I was also told today the same thing. Now im just sad. how do i make myself feel better. My friends have guys liking them and they talk about it all the time. I want to look pretty and for guys to like me, but every time i hear those things my self esteem goes down and my confidence. Please help!!! what should i do!!!?!?!?
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reader, lion heart  +, writes (23 July 2010):
 yer you might not be the prity-est girl at you school find out all the nice/pritty things about you and bring them out, dont care what people think. im fugly, im real skiny. i hate it but even tho im all these things i still get girls because of my personality. so what im trying to say is most guys dont care bout nice butts or big tits. they care about how well they gett on with you. if some immature girl/boy puts you down because of your apperane just think yer so what. the right guy will come along soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys:)
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reader, Odds  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 Assuming what you want is a boyfriend, and not just general male attention...
First, don't worry about your boobs or butt. For a relationship, 90% of what guys want from your body is a decent face and not being fat. A little makeup can go a long way for you face, and long hair can set off your better features. Try different combinations - and if you have glasses, wear them.
The more important point is your personality. Personality is a lot more malleable than most people really think. Be feminine. That means be confident, but not confrontational. Be kind, be a little shy, and be loyal to your boyfriend when you find one. Be funny; if you can't be funny, laugh at his jokes instead.
However, depending on the competition in your area, that may not be enough. If you are in college, there will be too many other girls around for you to just wait to meet a guy. So, you may have to go out and introduce yourself to guys, even ask them out yourself. Most modern guys aren't threatened by that sort of thing, and once you are on the first date, you can back off a bit and let him take the lead again.
Lastly, don't denigrate your own looks in real life. Most guys will think you're fishing for compliments, and we hate that.
Good luck.
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reader, papertowns +, writes (17 July 2010):
seriously just be who you want to be, one day a guy will like you. Once you start letting people get to you, then they'll be making the decisions for you like, "oh i shouldn't wear that because i have no boobs"
good luck and remember always try and be optimistic :D
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (17 July 2010):
 Oh, fooee! Don't pay attention to someone who tells you such unkind, negative things about yourself! Whether it was one person (maybe she's jealous, or upset with you?) or more than one, you don't need to be around people like that!
You don't want to be a carbon copy of girls who try to look like - for want of a better term - barbie dolls, anyway. If anything, pay a little more attention to the way you dress, and your hair, and makeup - if you feel you could do with making some changes, that is. Maybe have a session at a beauty parlor to get some good suggestions........otherwise, hold your head high, focus on being as healthy as you can be with your eating habits, exercise, right amount of sleep and things you find interesting........while it is true that guys do notice a woman's looks, it's also true they notice someone who looks (and is) healthy, is interested in different things and ideas (so there's something of substance to engage in conversation), is smart, kind and genuinely interested in other people, without being the sort who is demanding, or whiny, or pressures a guy........
Good luck to you!
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