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writes:My boyfriend and I moved in together after being together for 10 months. I have yet to tell my mom. But it is not just me and him, one of my friends is there as well as my guys bro and his friend. The thing is, my mom thinks that I live with 4 girls. She is coming to the new apartment next weekend and I told my BF that I didnt want a bunch of people to be there because I wanted to tell her once she got to the apt with not a bunch of people around. He told me that that was selfish of me. I was like "What"!!! I didnt know what he meant by that but he said that why should he have to tell his bro and friend to leave for awhile when my mom comes over. I said that is would just be easier for her to walk into the place and not see three guys lying around. We sort of got into an argument about it. But I just want to know if I was wrong to ask my BF to leave for about and hour while she was there, or was he just being an inconsiderate jerk? I mean they didnt have to be gone all day but just until I told her my living situation, and then they could come back home while I showed her around town. Was I in the wrong, or was he? Its okay, if I was, I just want other opinions. Thanks a bunch.
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reader, TaylorChu +, writes (30 August 2007):
 I can see both sides of the issue. You asked you bf to leave his home. You wanted the place to be at peace while you told your mum the situation. I dont think there is a good or bad thing that happened here. Since it already happened dont worry about it. if you feel better about apologing or just even saying thanks for helping me in that situation then go ahead and do so. Either way you want all things to be cleared between you and your roommates. Explain how things went with your mom with everyone and thank them for helping you in that area. If they are hurt that you asked for that just say sorry but it was one of the ways that you knew would work when breaking the news to your mom. *Good job on telling your mom the truth and not sticking with a lie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2007): it was a bit ridiculous that he couldn't just leave for a bit but then why couldn't you just meet your mom somewhere else, explain the situation and then bring her to your place to meet the guys.
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reader, Katie-ann  +, writes (29 August 2007):
 Hiya,
So your mum will worry if you live with other guys? I think even my mum would worry if I told her that, but that’s their job; to worry!
I think that your bf felt loyal to his brother as well as you; after all they pay rent and have just as much right to be there as you do. Why don’t you talk to ALL your flatmates, say your mum is coming round (make a joke of it) and tell them how much you would appreciate it if they all tidied up a bit and were on their ‘best behaviour’!! Get you bf to have a word with them too maybe. Then after buy them some beer etc and tell them how much it meant to you that everything went well. If your mum sees that you are getting on alright living on your own it will be a big weight off you mind and may bring you closer together if you are completely truthful.
Hope this helps, take care.
Xx
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