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41-50,
anonymous
writes:A friend of mine who I like as more than a friend seemed to like me back but said that he wanted to wait to sleep together. Before I met him I slept with one of his friends and he told me in the weekend that this puts him off wanting to sleep with me. I asked him why he kept coming around if he was unsure and he said "you know why." He said I was his best friend. He also said that he is the type of guy that likes the chase, and that I had shown too much interest. I see it as being a good host when he comes to visit and I'm attracted to him so of course it shows. He also said that he likes some attention but not too much but then when I don't text him much he gets mad and says he wonders what I'm doing with other guys when he's not around. I told him I want to be myself and don't want to play games. It was silly but to see what he said I then asked if he wanted to stop seeing me and he said it was a good idea, then I got upset and he admitted he was trying to wind me up. He just won't talk about his feelings. He said he would come and stay at my place tonight for a week to see how it worked out but now I haven't heard from him. What do I do I have some of his belongings at my house and don't know if this "relationship" is going anywhere, I feel hurt about this guy and wonder if it would be better to end it but every time I see him I back down.
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reader, mum2be  +, writes (19 February 2007):
You should be your self, honey!! Ignore what he says... if he does not like you for who you are, then he is the one loosing out. If you like him, let him know that you like him but dont go out of your way to please him... he does not sound worth it! If he is off with you because you slept with his mate, then tell him you will sleep with whomever you want to, and that it's his loss!
Good luck darling
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reader, artistical_bumblebee +, writes (18 February 2007):
 i think he is mentally abusing you, he is playing games with you indeedy that much is true. but what do you do? you really love him , you always want to be with him you feel as though your unattractive these are some reactions one might feel when being mentally abused and that is what he is doing to you. sleeping with his best friend he may feel hurt, jealous possesive and supicous these are unavoidable when your partner behaves in such a fashion as this you must decide to do you deserve his treatment?do you love him enough to stay with him? i find it strange how he laughed at you when you questioned your position in this relationship and then he mocked you representation of being insenistive for that is what he is, if you have tryed to talk and he refuses to communicate/respond then there is not much hope unless he changes this relationship is doomed as i said before decide what you want, are you truely happy?at the end of the day only you know what your heart hides from the rest of the world follow your heart your instincts they will lead you down a path with no games i hope this helps you
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