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writes:I'm studying computer engineering so it's ALL GUYS and I'm not a hermit or anything, so I try to make friends. And I LIKE having friends I can talk to about nerdy things like Linux and UNIX, I mean, most other people don't get it. But the guys ALWAYS end up confessing their feeling for me sooner or later. HOW DO I STOP THIS?! Tell me men, how do I turn you off FOREVER!!! without gaining 100lb, sacrificing my looks, getting really hairy, being unfriendly? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2013): Plan A: First, stop taking showers, don't wear any makeup, and don't shave anywhere.Them, eat a healthy serving of refried beans every morning for breakfast, and make sure you're not shy about holding in the natural results of your diet. Let it fly loudly from both ends regularly. Third, talk constantly and loudly about how so many men think you are just the hottest piece of **s on the planet, but you are just too good for them. Even the most hard up fellow computer nerd on the planet will lose interest in a hurry.Plan B: invent an imaginary boyfriend who has anger issues and hangs out at biker bars and competes in professional MMA fights. Talk about the boy friend constantly.Plan C: ("nerdageddon")Combine plans A and B.
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reader, HeresBoo  +, writes (17 April 2013):
 Wear a false engagement ring ;) you'll turn invisible
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (14 April 2013):
 Lol so dramatic ;).. Calm down. These are boys not men. I can't stand men who are babies like this. I agree its annoying. Their problem is they put you on some kind of pedestal, be it beauty intelligence or whatever. The day you sense a guy feels he's better than you in every category is the day you'll open up. You need a very confident non-ass-kissing man. That's it. There are plenty around and i'd say by now you have a filter switch but dont use it to shut men out completely. Use it to weed ass-kissing-wussy men out. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2013): You should consider yourself fortunate that men are easily attracted to you. Some girls would love to be in your shoes. But don't flatter yourself too much just yet. A woman's beauty is her most valuable asset in the mating game of life. The unfortunate thing about this asset is that it has an expiry date. So, this is your moment of glory. This is when you bloom so brightly. When you can command the attention of many men, capitalize on this moment by searching out the right kind of man who will be interested not just with your looks but one who want's to marry you and start a life with you. Otherwise, the more you delay and get older, less men will start crowding around you and eventually, you'll be knocked out of your pedestal by a much younger, fresher model. You wouldn't want that to happen to you while you're still single. Being a cougar is no substitute for a desirable wife and loving mother.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (13 April 2013):
It's just something you'll have to put up with for now. Anytime a guy asks you out just say "as friends, I'm not looking to date anyone right now."
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reader, Love-Wisely +, writes (13 April 2013):
 I'm in favor of mentioning your boyfriend, whether you have one or not. It's a good general way of saying: "We can only ever be buddies." If you want to step things up a notch, avoid highlighting your feminine charms. Also, make remarks like: "Dude" "Bro" and make unsolicited suggestions for girls your buddies to hit on..
Still, it may backfire. Computer nerds are typically a very under sexed crowd.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (13 April 2013):
 Wear a t-shirt that says: Error 403 - Access denied.
Other than that there's nothing you can do about it other than make it very clear it's not going to happen.
Or you could get a boyfriend and then mention him frequently. I won't comment on the need for this boyfriend to be real or not, that's for you to decide.
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reader, R1  +, writes (13 April 2013):
 I don't think you need to stop them fancying you, as that is impossible in young men! Just learn how to handle their advances. You can make a joke about things and have a laugh but always be clear and straight to the point - it's never going to happen.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 April 2013):
 I don't believe you are the only woman says the IT specialist who's team is more women then men....
you can't stop how others feel.
if you really want them to stop hitting on you, wear a wedding ring.... it won't stop all of them, but it will stop some.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (13 April 2013):
 I don't believe every single guy in your class has feelings for you. You also have to realize not everyone is interested in having friends. A lot of people, like me, do not find a point in conversations if there's nothing practical to it. I am a classical musician and I have no interest in discussing how to interpret a concerto. When you are looking to connect with people, it's hard to extract the parts you want in a person and discard the parts you don't want. I remember your question and I still say your best bet is to look for someone you can love and love you back. Then talking about Linux is just a bonus in the relationship, not the whole focus in the relationship. I don't know why you are so against trying out for romance. You just have to wait for one who does it for you.
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