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*hortyanna
writes:My boyfriend of 8 months have been having problems recently. He is younger then me by 2 years(18 and I'm 20), and he pretty much left his old life (friends and even family that he doesn't get along with) to be with me and start something new. The problem is due to his lose of a job, partly because of me(we worked at the same restaurant)he has been relying on me to help him out. We have been living together and I have taken care of him for about 4 months, but always complain about him getting a new job. He is having too much fun with friends and just living off other people for now. I just want him to grow up and be able to take care of himself.I helped him too much and most of our fights were over this, so we decided to separate until he gets back on his feet. Its been about 2 weeks and he is trying, but will still be taking quite awhile. There is a new guy that has taken interest in me that is a few years older. He knows about my boyfriend and doesn't want to put any pressure on me, but does want to take me out on a few nice dates and spoil me. He is a nice guy and I do like him, but I'm still in love my my not so perfect boyfriend. Should I take the chance with the new guy or wait on my current one? Reply to this Question
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reader, M! +, writes (7 April 2008):
 You are in a hard situation.
I think you should give that other guy a chance.
Cause maybe your boyfriend isnt right for you.
but mention to him that your going to hang out with a friend.
because its not right to go behind his back, you know?
i know this sounds cheesy, but do what your heart tells you.
i hope everything works out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): It's really not that difficult, if you love someone you've got to be with them surely? That is assuming you actually love them.
However, I suggest you make your points clearly to your younger boyfriend. He seems immature but then your mature for your age. Age difference doesn't matter but your maturites (if thats a word) are clashing.
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