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writes: hi,Im at such a loose end. This is going to be very long but i really need some help, i just don't know what 2 do anymore. Im 15 years old and i have topped the scales at 19.6 stones. Im so worried i don't want to reach 20 stones, its so embarrassing 4 my age. My mum died 2 months ago, i have dropped out of school, i have lost half of my friends i used 2 have, and i don't like going out so i make up excuses. Most things scare me because of my weight and i just want to be like any other teen. I recently started sureslim diet, but it the worst diet i have ever been on, it makes me feel so ill and im so used 2 eating all the time and this diet is practically starving me. I have done slimming world, weightwatchers,u name em, but nothing works 4 me. I am going to an obesity clinic next week but ino there just going to put me on a diet. i dont have that will power. I just want a life that i enjoy, where i can be just like everyone else! please help me! my clothes are getting tighter and i feel so depressed, and my aunty is really mad with me because i can't do this diet i feel so alone! :(
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (29 April 2006):
 You get a big hug from me. I am so sorry to hear that your Mum has passed away, and that sure cannot help you in addressing your weight difficulties. I am not going to lecture you about your weight as I am sure you have had quite enough of that! However, I just wanted to say that certain 'diets' work for certain people so you need to experiment. You also need to do some exercise (not necessarily at a gym but at home is ok) to burn calories. You should seek out some counselling to try to understand your relationship with food - cognitive behavioural therapy is very effective for this kind of thing. I just wanted to add that you should be checked out by a doctor too as there maybe a medical explanation for your weight problem. For example, I have an underactive thyroid gland and insulin resistant polycystic ovarian symdrome - both require medication and both make you prone to putting on weight. When I was your age, and in my early 20's, I had terrible trouble keeping my weight down because I didnt know anything was wrong. I also developed an eating disorder because of it and ended up very overweight at 30 but I fixed the problem with diet, medication and by understanding food. Therefore, it is worth getting yourself checked out. Even if that isnt the problem, you need to be aware that many overweight people have insulin resistance and react badly to refined carbohydrates (all that lovely sweet stuff!) so try to do some reading around different food groups as you don't need to starve yourself.
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reader, carebear +, writes (28 April 2006):
 Sophie
first of all i must say so sorry about your mum this must be really hard for you and you are only a kid i would say go to the clinic do you have a close family member who will go with you & support you and I would also mention to them about your mum you should go back to school or collage as this way you are amoung people your own age and you are definatly not alone but atleast you are doing something about it which is very mature and it's surprising were we sometimes get our willpower from but i am sure you can do it good luck
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reader, Aunt Audrey +, writes (28 April 2006):
 I'm sorry that your weight problem is causing you such heartache, but it seems you have a problem with "diets" this I think is because you connect the word "diet" with feelings of hunger and depriving yourself of the things you like to eat, foods you know are not good for you when trying to loose weight.
You don't say if you eat more when you are depressed or at an emotional low, but if you do tend to comfort eat, you are going to find dieting hard after suffering the lose of your mother, hard but not impossible!
There is no miracle cure for weight lose, it takes time and willpower (how I wish they bottled that!)You can lose weight, you have the power to do it, but only you can make the changes required to achieve your goal. You will need to change your eating habits and you will need to exersize.
There are so many websites for people who need support and advice on losing weight, use them, take the advice offered by people that are taking the same journey as yourself. Find an online diet buddy, whom you can e-mail and share your feelings and experiences with. It will not always be easy, but stay motivated, think of the things you most want to do that you can't do now because of your weight, imagine yourself the way you would like to look and keep reminding yourself of these things when you are feeling weak and about to give up. I think you would benefit from reading some books on self motivation and building self confidence, go to your local library and see what they have to help you. Take control of your life and learn to enjoy it. Please don't shut out the world, keep your friends, and maintain some sort of social life, and remember you are NOT alone, thousands feel the same way as you do, many people struggle to lose weight.
I'm sure you can do this, you just need to get motivated.
Good luck.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2006): The diets dont work for you probably because you dont have the willpower to stick to them. If you want to lose weight, you will have to diet. Simple as. Surely if a more slender figure would give you better confidence then it would be worth doing for that alone.
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