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writes:I don't know how to explain this so I'm just gonna say it. I've had some problems in the best with relationships because I seem to always fall insanely 'in love' with the wrong people - and it drives me insane because I can't get over them until it's forced out of me. Either by leaving them forever or I fall for someone else. But I can't go through that torment anymore, and I seem to have fallen for someone else and I know your just screaming at me to just tell them how I feel but I couldn't. The past two I mean telling them would involve my parents and a whole load of commotion and I guess pride stands in the way of me telling someone female...I just wanna know how you get over someone because I've tried everything and I want to for once in my life concentrate on my well being and my future rather than constantly torturing myself over something that could never, ever happen.I know my pride should get out of the way this time but I don't wanna open up that bottle as I know I'l regret it and it's hard to close up once you've opened it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): Hey your only young so you can go out and have fun for a bit. You will meet someone special soon but take it slowly and dont rush things as your end up getting hurt. Play it cool. My life however is more difficult I have a boyfriend who Ive been with for 5 years but Im obsessed with someone I hardley know and lives miles away, so im very depressed!!! Anyway take my advice
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (25 January 2009):
 Won't you please try to realize that you are so very young and that, quite naturally, your hormones are raging and it is so easy to be infatuated with most any guy who seems attractive and hot? With time, these insane urges will pass, and you will become much more careful and selective about such things. You will actually begin to base your love affairs on rational and thoughtful evaluation of a young man's potential as a faithful lover, potential husband, provider and father of your future children, if you choose to be a mother someday.
But right now, it's just crazy lust. Someday, you will actually understand my advice. You will someday make very good decisions about the qualities you want in a partner - someone who truly will be good for you, and to whom you will be a wonderful and loving gift. It is too early in your life to expect these results, so please be patient and do not make irrational mistakes in your youth. If you heed such advice, please remember that some old guy in Texas called DoubleM tried to help you. I'll be long gone before you really value my suggestions, but I hope I've planted some useful thoughts to help you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009): Yes ...love can be tough , and often we fall for someone who is completely " opposite " to ourselves , and that can be difficult.
there is no easy answer to this one ...but if you are open , honest ans speak from the heart with someone you love ...then you can only earn respect. Honesty , is the key I think .Talk about your feelings and be true to yourself .
I found happiness when I was honest about what I really wanted in a relationship.
Don't worry about your feelings !If it helps , write them down ...and put how you feel in a Valentine'sd card . It's worth a chance ! Good Luck !
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reader, Felina  +, writes (24 January 2009):
 Hi there!Well,in my opinion,for you to be able to love and feel all the happyness,intimacy and joy of a relationship,you must let yourself go,and love almost insainly the other person.Well,when you allow yourself to feel such love and emotion for another person,ofcouse you become in the iminent risc of suffering deeply...When you love someone,but for some reason you loose them,you will suffer deeply.
However,I think love is the essence of life.If you just choose to not be in love,all the passion and trill will be gone from your life.You will stop living...
So all of us have suffered of disapointment,infidelity and other love issues...God,and it hurts real bad!One just feels so lost and destroyed.But you will get over it.There is just one way to cure your pain,and that is TIME.Only time heels your suffering.Each day will be better...
But don´t stop loving.Love is the key to happyness,even if sometimes it doesn´t seem that way.
However,being with friends and keeping busy with things you like and work may help.
Hope I helped!
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