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writes: Hello,This is quite personal but i have never been fingered before but i think my boyfriend wants my first to be with him.I do finger myself sometimes because i want to get used to it.When i do i have found this small selection of lumps right at the opening of my vagina. They do not hurt.I have looked at them with a hand-held mirror and they are the same colour as everything else.I talked to my mum about it and she took me to see my local nurse.The nurse didn't really look inside me, because she said i was a bit too young to have instruments stuck up there. Instead she looked around the lets say 'external' areas. She did spot them and said they were normal but im not too sure..I have looked it up on the internet but no-one seems to be like me ?I am worried about this because i want to be normal as every teenager does.Thank you for your help xoxo
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (22 December 2010):
 I hope you keep that attitude! Our warnings often come from personal experience. In my case I thought I was ready at 15. I was wrong. I just didn't realize it until a couple of years later. Remember, just because it may be legal at 16 doesn't make you ready. Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the answers. Really helped.I am a horse rider and in the past i have done some very vigorous exercises. So i think then it must be the hymen. But Just before we get into this.. I wasn't planning on having sex at all until im over the age of 16 and ready.He is the loveliest boy i have ever met and would wait for me to do anything and he'll always ask first.Personally i dont think im too young, to be thinking about being fingered ?and at the age of 15 i think im ready to make A FEW of my own decisions.As for saying im too young ? Well you can think that but im a teenager and every teenager worries about little things that dont even matter. So im sorry if i sound moody in anyway but im not going to have sex and if anyone ever pressures me into it their getting a slap :)
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reader, punkgirl14 +, writes (22 December 2010):
 its totally fine.. dont worry about it.. just ignore it.. im your age and trust me .. hope this helps:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): This is totally completely normal. I know exactly what you are feeling, because I found the same thing when I was a teenager, and was also worried about it, and it is normal - it is just the way the hymen is. Where bits break open (from, eg, you riding a bike when you were a little kid, or horseriding, or gymnastics, etc) there is a kind of lump left behind. Well, not lump really, but exactly that sort of slightly irregular bumpiness you describe. So don't worry. You are the same as everyone else, and they are the same as you. It's OK. But I know they feel kind of alarming - but apparently we shouldn't be worried by them. Well, that's what I was told 20 years ago, and I'm still here, two babies later! : )
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reader, CJH  +, writes (21 December 2010):
 The Internet is an amazing resource for all kinds of things but when it comes to self diagnosis it's just about the worst place to look for answers.
The nurse who examined you will know exactly what she's talking about and you really should trust her rather than that little voice in your head or anything you find online. If you simply can't accept what she's said, ask your mum to take you for a second opinion.
Teenage life is so hard, worrying yourself over something that isn't a problem is just going to confuse you and make your life far harder to cope with.
What's the rush with sex anyway? These no right or wrong way to do it but your first experience should be special so slow down a little huh?
I know I sound like an old fart - hey I am an old fart - I do know what I'm talking about though.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 December 2010):
I don't think you have anything weird going on. Everyone is shaped differently down there, and your boyfriend is not likely to even notice or know anything different. He'll be nervous too.
On a different note, perhaps you're a little young to be doing this. Some of your nerves about this are because you aren't ready. There is absolutely nothing wrong with waiting. Don't let anyone pressure you into sex. Ever.
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