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writes:I have been seeing a girl for the last 2 weeks. We met on facebook and I really like her. There seems to be a spark there already. Trouble is, I’m very paranoid. We went out Friday night, had a good night and yesterday, she told me she would cook me a Sunday roast today. I was really looking forward to it, but then this morning she said she had to cancel as her mum asked her up for dinner. Am I right to be pissed off? Or am I being stupid. I’m thinking she cancelled because she has gone off me or something, maybe I’m way off the mark but I had bad experiences with my ex who cheated on me. I like this girl. She says she really likes me, but how do I really know she feels the same way. Please help. I don’t know what to do, and I don’t want to ruin this.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (6 March 2011):
 I don't think you need to be pissed off. She had something come up with her mother, she called and canceled. This relationship is new, so I'd roll with the punches a little bit. She has not shown any indication of not being interested - just that she has a close relationship with her Mom. I think you are most mad because you are paranoid that she canceled because she doesn't like you. I don't think that's the case. If you go nuts on her after 2 weeks, you may push her away and seem overwhelming. So relax and just enjoy the budding relationship. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2011): You shouldn't worry about it. If she had to go somewhere else, she had to go somewhere else, and you can just reschedule with her. You can't exactly ignore dinner with your mom- and it's not her fault, and it doesn't mean that she's not interested!
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reader, rachaelerin +, writes (6 March 2011):
 I think it's too soon to for you to be having these worries and yes, it is down to your paranioa. Let this go. Two weeks is no time at all in a relationship. and this has happened only once. You can't know straight away whether she feels the same way. So give it time. Let your relationship grow. It isn't possible to go through a relationship, (or even a friendship for that matter), where the other person will not, at some point or another, have other commitments. And it is her mum. Family is important. Make another date, ask her how it went and talk to her normally. Then you'll see straight away that everything is fine between the both of you. It will also give you something to talk about so you can learn more about her and her family. Do not make a fuss over this little thing, or you could end up ruining it. :) Good luck.
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