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writes:I've been dating this girls for about a year on and off. Recently we lived together and I started to feel taken advantage of so we decided to live seperately and still date. Well we both say we love each other but yet she doesn't show a lot of emotion twords me unless I do something nice for her. She tells me she isn't ignoring me just busy when I call but if I don't answer the phone when she calls I get the 3rd degree. I really love this woman and I am just wondering if I've gone wrong somewhere and or what I should do to show this person how much I really love her. She has always had a problem showing her emotions but it's like now I am not important any more. I guess I just need to know what to do to get this person to fall back in love with me!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, FroggieGman +, writes (23 March 2009):
Just got out of a situation very similiar to yours. Run my friend, run far away from this woman.
My friend needed help with house and car payments, clothes for herself and her daughter, food for the dog even.
She blew her cork one evening, starting to insult my deceased wife in front of my son and I asked her to take her daughter and 2 dogs and leave my home. As it ended up, I have to legally evict her.
Haven't heard from her in months. Saw her ex husband, it seems she and the daughter are soaking him for $$$ now. I told him to keep paying her, I'm positive if he stops, my phone will start ringing again.
Many promises and little to no delivery, got many "I love you's" from both she and her daughter, Didn't mean a thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): I'm sure she's in love with you sometimes when people appear to be cold and distant that's when they need you the most!i'm telling you this from experience because i have exactly the same problem as your girlfriend and i have a very hard time expressing my emotions too.i'm sure that you didn't do anything wrong,you're just emotionally more mature than she is.all you have to do is give her time and don't worry about changing your behaviour towards her or doing something different,i'm sure she's just still having a hard time showing her feelings,that doesn't mean she doesn't love you.it might be a good idea to talk to her,though.tell her that you understand it's hard on her experessing her emotions and ask her to tell you if there's anything you can do,even suggest couples therapy if necessary-don't get scared,it might be what your relationship needs-just be there for her and everything will be just fine.
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