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writes:I just need some honest opinions on age differences. What would you think of a 17 year old girl going out with a 29 year old guy? Right/wrong/doesn't matter? I need some insight to this, thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): When I was 17 was when I started seeing older men. So I can tell you from experience - definately watch yourself with older men!!! They know more than you and they can use that to manipulate you a bit. Ok so I still date older men now, right? But NOW I only date men who I have known for a while as friends before anything sexual happens. Now I date men who love me for ME not love me because I am young and pretty. Yes this might add a bit of taboo to the thrill but it is DEFINATELY not the only thing that is going for the relationships now. So these guys I was seeing at 17? When I look back at it...I shudder. I cringe. I feel sick to my stomach. I picked the wrong guys. Because I was young and naive and stupid. And I'm sorry but pretty much every teenager dates a lot of wrong guys before she finds a good one. I'm not saying that he is too old for you, and I am not saying that 17 is too young - you are legal (in my country anyway) and can make whatever decision you choose. If you love him and he loves you age should not matter. BUT...if you have any misgivings then maybe you should think about what kind of relationship you have. Maybe save the sexual stuff til you know him well enough. In my personal experience teenage boys are immature and stupid so I'm not saying they are better...I am just saying that when you are older you might look back and regret decisions you make too fast because of hormones. Get a vibrator for your sexual needs then you can use your head to decide who you date!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009): Women never mind these age splits when they're on the winning side of them. They love how they're so mature & able to "look past the age" and hook up with older men who "see them for who they are."
But as soon as women get old enough to be losing other men to younger women, the claws come out and suddenly all these men are immature dirtbags.
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reader, reign154  +, writes (21 April 2009):
Hi honestly i say that you should go go for it. I mean life is worth taking risks. This guy likes you for who you are and not what you have underneath your clothes. I mean yeah he is a guy so he does think about sex but i really think he wants more than that from you. A lot of guys our age i have known only have one thought about how many girls they can get into bed and how long it takes them. I think older guys give a sense of security because they have this stability about them and give off so much confidence that it is something you would like to have in yourself. This guy may be 29 but there should not be such a thing as an age limit if two people are really connecting on a good level. I say have fun while you can because you never know what can happen. If you want to talk just email me. xoxoxo Reign :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): im nineteen and my boyfriend is thirty three and its not weird at all. For me its a maturity thing. I have been with guys my age and most of them were just so immature that meeting a guy who you can actually have a decent conversation with was refreshing. As long as he treats you with respect and realises that you are younger and that you may want to take things slower. As long as he respects that then i see no problem. The only problem i have is his shocking taste in music ha ha ha
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): I am really grateful for all of your help. He is a great guy, and would never dream of forcing me into anything. I turn 18 in just under a month, thank you all so much :)
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (20 April 2009):
 I think it's fine. Just be true to yourself. Don't do anything that you wouldn't want to do.
And chances are, if he is pressuring you when he knows that you don't want to, he is not for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): i think it's weird for a guy who's almost 30 to date a girl in high school. i'm sorry, but there is something wrong there. i'm 25, and i would not want to hang out with someone in their late teens romantically. first of all, a 17 yr old can't legally drink, i think it's illegal in some states to have sex if one person is over 18, and i think if i had a 29 yr old friend who was dating a high schooler, i would be weirded out!
If he was 40 and you were 27, then i would say it's probably ok. but there is a bigger difference in maturity levels between someone in there teens and someone who is almost 30. so no, i don't think it's ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): That's a tough one... I would say in many ways not that big of a deal. I mean 12 years is really not that big of a difference in the grand scheme of things. I guess the bigger question is ===== is he a quality person ---- is he respectful of you and your age. When do you turn 18? Would your parents be okay with. I think better to date a 29 year old gentleman then a 19 year old asshole. So for me it is more about is it a good person than age difference. Good luck.
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reader, Soph.p  +, writes (20 April 2009):
12 years is fine. Think of it as when you are older, in years to come. 40 and 52 is considered a great relationship. Don't let yourself get uncomfortable though. If you don't feel it is right then talk to your partner about it but from my opinion at 16 I think it's alright :)
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