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writes: Dear CupidMy ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for almost a year but we were dating for about 1 year and 6 months. We broke up due to the fact he did not trust me and said I was a flirt, so basically it was a jealousy problem. He always promised we would get back together but he said he needs to focus on college. We still continue to have sexaul intercourse even though we're not dating. Since we been broken up I've always been there, clinging onto the past, so decided to back off and let him come to me. Is that a good idea? I don't know if he's using me but I believe he still loves me cuz he really loved me and I took advantage and hurt him. All I want is a second chance. How can I make that possible? Please, I need your advice. How do I get him back or to give me another chance?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2006): I do not understand why he would break up with you if he has trust/jealousy issues and yet still believes it is okay to stil have sex with someone he doesn't love, respect, or trust.
He sounds very self involved and you are going to be devastated when you find out that he is using you for sex; he probably believes you are an idiot for allowing him to use you and he won't feel bad as he honestly believes he isn't doing anything wrong.
CUT THE TIES.
If he loves you and wants you back, he will be willing to commit and work on thinking of you and trusting you.
Get over him, heal and move on; you deserve a loving, responsive, caring, considerate man who knows how to trust and respect another.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2006): Hey, I was given a flyer the other day about a website called secondchancecupid.com, I don't know much about it but might be worth a look- from what i gather you can use it to beg your ex back, or if you saw someone you fancy somewhere etc. I'm going to post a message about a lad I saw at the cinema, am totally kicking myself for not getting his number after we flirted!! Good luck anyway
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reader, SherreeBee +, writes (3 February 2006):
 This is a tricky situation.. that I can completely understand. You love him and want to be with him. He loves you too but just needs space.. and that is totally cool. Him having space will probably help him realize exactly what it is he wants with your relationship. All that matters is that he isn't messing around with anyone ELSE while you two are. As shortandsweet said, it is important that he is COMMUNICATING EVERYTHING to you. You're obviously clear on wanting to be with him, and that he's the only one you're with intimately. Well it's only fair that he has these same feelings as well. If you guys are going to pursue a relationship, communication is the key!
I hope everything turns out okay:-)
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reader, shortandsweet408 +, writes (2 February 2006):
 I believe that if you two aren't seeing other people what you are doing is fine, just make sure you both know where you stand and TALK to him about the situation. I think if you two care about eachother enough then you can talk and be truthful to eachother. Hell he may just need this time. Obviously he enjoys having you around but if you two agree to see other people (if you didn't break up for him to be ALONE) then I wouldn't stick around much longer. Doesn't it seem in that case he would be keeping you around until something better comes along? I would tell him that if he is going to end up with someone else (if there is the possibility in his head) then he should save you the heartbreak and let things fizzle out now. But if you two enjoy your company and love spending time together WITHOUT the pressure of a relationship (I know that is what I like) and you two are mutually happy without a "label" but are just as exclusive, then why not continue.
I hope I helped... just remember to listen to nothing but him and YOUR HEART
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reader, shortandsweet408 +, writes (2 February 2006):
I believe that if you two aren't seeing other people what you are doing is fine, just make sure you both know where you stand and TALK to him about the situation. I think if you two care about eachother enough then you can talk and be truthful to eachother. Hell he may just need this time. Obviously he enjoys having you around but if you two agree to see other people (if you didn't break up for him to be ALONE) then I wouldn't stick around much longer. Doesn't it seem in that case he would be keeping you around until something better comes along? I would tell him that if he is going to end up with someone else (if there is the possibility in his head) then he should save you the heartbreak and let things fizzle out now. But if you two enjoy your company and love spending time together WITHOUT the pressure of a relationship (I know that is what I like) and you two are mutually happy without a "label" but are just as exclusive, then why not continue.
I hope I helped... just remember to listen to nothing but him and YOUR HEART
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reader, PornStarKitty +, writes (1 February 2006):
 hiya, in my opinion you should distance yourself from him, Stop have sex with him!! thats not a good idea!! if he wont get bk with u then yes he is using you!! if he wants to get bk with u then he will come to you!! if not then forget about him!! hes NOT WORTH IT!
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