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writes: (age 20) Ok. I know it's all up to me. But anyway - I've previously gotten out of 2 long term/serious relationships (not at the same time obviously). Both guys I were with wanted me to perform oral sex on him and give the men hand jobs while I was with them. I felt uncomfortable about it and refused to do so, it's just something that I don't go in for. 1 of the men had fingered me and the ther had given me head, and I didn't like either of them. I just liked sex and that was it, nothing kinky.1) Does every guy expect all this other sexual activity? Because I'm not up for it and I don't want to lose relationships because of it.2) Is there anything that I can do or recieve from my man that I could be comfortable with? what do guys like what do most girls like giving?I currently in a relationship at the moment. My Boyf doesn't mind TOO much that I won't go down on him but I think he's going to want it some time soon. We do a bit of SnM. (i'm always submissive)Hope you can help me enjoy more of my sex life.
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reader, Martyrmachine +, writes (17 July 2006):
 Well, i think it depends on the guy, depending on what he likes, what he's like etc. Although, if you think the people are worth it, you should make sacrifices and give your parter what HE wants, for exchange what you want.
As you said he doenst mind too much about it, so once in a while - i think you could handle it. i know that my girlfriend was willing to do things i wanted for me, even though she didnt enjoy it she did it for me, and in exchange i did things for her that i didnt enjoy. at first we didnt do each other 'favours' but we just talked about it, and found that it would benefit us both.
you could also try telling him that you dont particularily like going down there - and if he's a decent guy, who loves you, trust me - he would understand.
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reader, katzkitten  +, writes (17 July 2006):
 I dont know much about sex and stuff as i am only young but not too young to be naive if that makes sense. Anyway from the boys i have been with i no they like forplay just as much as sex and it turns them on ready for sex. I dont know what you'd be comfortable with cos that is completly up to u. But you need to remember that a relationship is give and take. you do things for him sometimes and othertimes that way he remains happy and can live a little bit longer, but make sure that you make your feelings about it clear so he doesnt expect it all the time
I hope ive helped a small bit if i havent email me and let me know why xXx
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