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*azzie1
writes:Confused, just kicked my boyfriend of 3 years out my house cuz he tried choking me 2x's with my kids in the house. I know he loves me cuz he tells me but why should I want this man back in my life being that he has a short temper, violent and I have two boys 14 and 7 who never witnessed violence. He's actually going to a psycholgist. Is there something wrong with me should I have to seek therapy? Should I bother given him a chance?
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reader, jazzie1 +, writes (8 November 2008):
jazzie1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all the answers very helpful
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (8 November 2008):
You did the absolutly 100% right thing.
Your boys are getting to the age now where they look at how you and your partners act to see how they should treat a women.
If they get a sniff of the fact that he got forgiven and his own way through violence then they might see it as being an ok thing to do to their girlfriends.
If they see their mother as a strong independent woman who would NEVER take that off a little scum bag of a man, then they will know that this kind of behaviour should NEVER cross their minds.
Talk to them and don't tell them all the details but explain that he was nasty to you and so now he is gone.
You can probably tell the older boy a bit more as he will be old enough to understand it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, dollparts  +, writes (8 November 2008):
 Do not take him back! You did the right thing, people like that never change they only get worse believe me. Don't take him back because next he'll probably do more then choke you. You have to think of your boys here, they need a possitive male role model not a woman basher, if they see that enough times their going to think its ok to do that to their future wifes/girlfriends and its not. So if anything for the sake of your son's and your self don't take him back. For your safety and theirs.
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