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41-50,
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writes:Dear Aunts, I really need some advice, as I think I am going crazy. I have just ended a three month relationship. I thought we were close, we went out numerous times a week, we were intimate, although we never had full sex, we did everything else but, and could talk easily until the small hours of the morning about anything and everything. He had a dating profile on a website, which I found out about and have been asking him to take down for ages. He came out to me at the weekend and said he had been on a date with some women he had met off the dating site, and wasnt sure if he might want to date her, So, could we just be friends without the intimate stuff. I was shocked and hurt. It was all a bit of a bombshell for me, as I felt we had something special. He still wants me to go round and do everything that we were doing before, just not to be intimate. I dont know how to feel or what to do! I told him I didnt think I could deal with being in the same room as him, because of how deeply I feel about him and knowing he may well be doing intimate things with someone else. He said that after such a short time I couldnt have very deep feelings as it doesnt happen, and that I was immature for being upset and bitter about the fact he didnt want to be intimate any more. I love him dearly and dont want to lose him from my life, I just don't think I can cope with just being his friend. I have not spoken to him for a week as I am trying to get my head round everything. To make things worse, he has NOW taken down this dating profile.Please can you help me... I am going crazy wondering what I should do for the best. Thank you.
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reader, conswalo wasabi +, writes (2 April 2009):
Some time apart is best for both of you.
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reader, conswalo wasabi +, writes (2 April 2009):
well i would say that it is best that you dont see him at all. For a few weeks at least to let you get over it. I have tried to do it myself but it dont work. Have some time apart and then think about it again
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