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writes:I have been with my bf for 4 1/2 yrs and i just had a baby girl in august. I found out that he had been cheating on me for 2 almost and got a girl pregnant. Not once but twice she had one baby and is now due in april. I have never been in this situation before and i alwyas said i would never forgive someone for cheating on me. But after all is said and done i still love this man and he seems sincere in trying to get me back i found this out if jan 07 and i still haven't accepted him back and i think i want to but i don't know how i can know if i can trust him i thought i could trust hime before i never suspected he was cheating . i know the question is not supposed to be long but i am 26 yrs old with no family or real friends to talk to about this can you help me out Reply to this Question
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reader, syl1 +, writes (10 March 2007):
Not to be selfish, it is almost a relief to know I am not the only one in a situation like this. If you like, I would be more than happy to talk to you via e-mail since this site allows short responses. I have been with my now fiance alltogether nine years now. For few years I have suspicious about signs but did not want to believe anything. It turns out he has a child, which is about 3.5, 4 years old now. I love him and I have hard time dealing with the situation. I really don't know what my next is going to be. I would love to hear from you. Feel free to write to me, maybe I can get some advice from you. Thanx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2007): Not to be selfish, it is almost a relief to know I am not the only one in a situation like this. If you like, I would be more than happy to talk to you via e-mail since this site allows short responses. I have been with my now fiance alltogether nine years now. For few years I have suspicious about signs but did not want to believe anything. It turns out he has a child, which is about 3.5, 4 years old now. I love him and I have hard time dealing with the situation. I really don't know what my next is going to be. I would love to hear from you. Feel free to write to me, maybe I can get some advice from you. Thanx
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (10 March 2007):
 Congratulations on your new baby, this is such a lovely time and poor you have now to put up with this. How are you coping? I really am not sure if you should take him back. i know that you love him but this isnt just a case of him having a quick fling. It had being going on for quite along time and he is the father of her two children. Is she out of the picture now? No matter what he is the father of these children so he will be in contact with her unless she moves away. I really dont know if you could trust him again. Its very hard when you love someone and want them in your life you want to see the best in them. I think that if you are still unsure give it abit more time and see if he can prove himself to you. You can never be sure that he will not cheat again. Will you always be suspicious of him, if so this again is not a good basis to take him back.
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reader, Carebear1529  +, writes (10 March 2007):
Hey give him a chance start a new beginning that's what i would do so chill and think about it.
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