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writes:Hey...I'm 17 and been with my guy for 6 months (he's almost 19) we've had sex like 6 times in the relationship and i want to tell my mum about it because i promised her that when i did i would tell her but i just dont know how as i cant give her exact dates or a place as there almost always in the house when we do have sex. Also she has just recently got home from a holiday with my step-dad and if i tell her now she will completly lose any trust she has for me because i promised her i wouldnt sleep with him while she was away (and i didnt) but she wont belive that. Any ideas??? Please help its really hard to keep this from my mum.thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): I had the same problem but even worse I had to tell my dad and he is a very angry person ask anyone once I told him that I had slept with this boy the first thing he asked me was when, where, why and are you pregnant? Imagine for me just tell your mum, I'm sure she won't care I'm SURE!!!
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reader, Dipsydoodlenoodle +, writes (29 November 2007):
Maybe still tell your mam but tell her you slept together for the first time whenever you choose to tell her as that way it will clear your conscience and keep your mam happy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): Keep your promise to your mum. That's the right thing to do.
Make sure you are having safe sex. Your 17 which is legal, but your mother still cares about you and would want to know you can still come and talk to her. I agree with phiatiger that you should tell her that the relationship has gone further and because you promised to let her know that you are now sexually active, your keeping your promise, but are being careful and responsible.
She may loose it and it will be about her daughter growing up and becoming a women. It is natural for her to be a bit uptight about it. That doesn't mean that she will react like this all the time but she will need to get her head around it. Don't be too hard on your mum she is the person you should be able to talk to about this type of thing. She probably wants to make sure you are able to handle this stage in your life without getting pregnant or diseases. You will know what you have to do. You know whether you want to honor your promise. She will respect you afterwards for that. Good luck. xx
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (29 November 2007):
 Just tell her, if she loses trust in you after you admit to your mother you're having sex with your boyfriend, then that's just ridiculous.
And as far as dates and times and whatnot goes, who does that? No one keeps track of where and when they have sex, that's asking a bit too much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): If you promised you would, then tell her you have taken the relationship further. The details really arent her business, you are of legal age so thats all she needs to know.
I would never of told my mom anything like that, even though we are close, so whether you choose to say or not is up to you.
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reader, clh91 +, writes (28 November 2007):
 just sit her down and say i was going to tell you before you went on holiday but i was a lil nervous and didn't what or how to say it but i'm want to tell you now.
i've been sleeing with my bf mum, i'm really sorry i didn't tell you sooner.
or something similar.
hope i helped :)
feel free to mail message me about anything if you wanna chat
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