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writes:hello everyoneI have a big problem in my life right now. My ex, we both promised to stay friends if we ever lost our relationship well its been ended for a month now and he hates me. Noone including myself knows why. I was a very good gf to him...he wasnt the most perfect guy but what person is..we are both 14 and he juss acts so wierd now like I dont talk to him anymore because what point is there to do so when he hates me. He talks to me more than I talk to him, at this point I want nothing to do with him. I just cant understand why he would hate me..is this normal? even if you didnt do anything and honestly know in your heart that you were a good gf to them...?? some help would be nice, anything really would help me out. I guess you could say this has been eating me alive on the inside=(thank you everyone
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (31 May 2008):
 Listen, let him move on and you do the same! The planet is filled with so many other guys out there just dying for your attention. Don't let this fool and his adolescent ways effect you and your future happiness! Having one less friend in the world will not kill you... learning to recognize his type will only make you stronger!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe broke up with me ( we kinda both called it quits but it was mainly him, i just didnt want to argue so i agreed to let it go) now he has a new gf. I dont see why he is hating me when he is the one moving on and having a great fucking life!=(
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reader, JTalbott +, writes (31 May 2008):
 Welcome to the wonderful game of dating where each break-up is a completely different experience. With some exs you can stay friends, while with others you need time and distance to heal.
Making promises about how we will feel after a break-up, is making promises that are impossible to keep. Not only can we not know how we will feel until the breakup happens, we definitively cannot control the feelings and/or behavior of the other person.
What we can do is accept our past just as it is, and focus our energies on the present which is full of new opportunities.
Welcome to the adventure of a lifetime!
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (31 May 2008):
Straight up, it sounds like he's brooding over the break up. To me, it seems like you should give him space and time to heal up. It's been a month and depending on how long you were going out together, it might take more than a month to be square with the fact you're no longer at that level any more. You might have been a great GF, but don't push on him... he's probably trying to gain a bit of his self-respect back... give him some space for now and don't try to approach him until he tries to approach you.
One last thing: sometimes after a breakup you can never go back to the friendship stage ever again. Too much water under the bridge to accept the old ways. It's dependent on your past relationship and the friendship you had beforehand. Every relationship is different in this.
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