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writes:Am finding it really hard to get over my bf...we've been 2gether since Febr. and we've been seeing each others everyday untill earlier this month when he gradually stoped calling or caring...until I ended things (they were already over though) but I tried calling him and he wouldnt answer anymore, so I ended things with an sms sayin that I can t be wanting him when he cant commit nor care..the thing is I just can't help it, I've been tryin 2 keep myself busy by working more and doing more stuff, talkin 2 new ppl and all that, but still I can't get him out of my mind, I still love him...and I miss him...I keep checkig his Hi5 account like everyday and he still keeps me as his frnd and he keeps my comments and even his pix r taken by me!!! and he has me still on msn I see when he's online!!! yet never talks or anything! am wondering if he's shut me out of his life y does he still keep me in his msn, or doesnt he care that am online or not...I just wish I could get over him, or maybe he'd get back :(I dont know, I just want 2 be stronger but am not :(
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reader, Learning2Love +, writes (2 December 2006):
 You deserve to be happy.
I had the same thing with my ex, I sent her txts and poems and stories for her to realise how much I cared, but she wouldn't budge. So I moved on, although we still stayed in touch. And last week she started warming up to me again, and I don't know if I want her back anymore.
She's got 2 kids and I loved them, but now I don't know if that's what I want.
Move on. Although it hurts, it's the only way to regain yourself. Maybe help people (like on this website), they say if you want to help yourself then be there for someone else.
This website has helped me to see that there are others out there hurting too and helped me to realise what I lost in myself when I gave my heart over to my ex completely. Now that she wants me back I don't think that, that is what I want. Cos I moved on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much guys 4 ur replies :)
I hope I can hold my self together like u said & just move onnnnnn...
thanx again :)
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006): It sounds to me like it is certainly over. Don't check up on him. Make a point of not doing that. You will get strong but it will take time, i know i have been there, it hurts like hell. You want them to phone, rush round, write, txt - anything! and nothing appears, it's like we have died! Just try and gradually build a bit of a shell around yourself. I takes practise. Get your friends rallied round. Go out with them. Go Xmas shopping. Get your brain out of his. You probably got in a rut with him anyway. There are loads of lovely guys out there you will meet one someday but for now get strong and don't run after him.
Take care
xx
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reader, trinnyconcarne +, writes (1 December 2006):
hey, unfortunately i find myself in a pretty similar situation toy uo at the minut!! it is really hard to get on with your life when you have lost someonr that you consider yourself to be very close to!! i have recently been seperated from my fiancee and there have been times when i have thought that life was not worth what i am going through! but then i think of the people that have not been so lucky as me!! i lost my father when i was 13 and my brother when i was 15 and even though i find this current situation harder than either of those i would consider it an insult to both opf them if i did not carry on with my life and find future happiness elsewhere!! i hope you can relate this to your own problem and i hope that it helps you to move on and become a stronger person because of your loss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006): Online does not a relationship make, if he is not calling you, then you can always call him, don't wait for a text message....if you cannot get over him by checking on his online account everyday, then vow to stop doing that and move on.
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