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writes:hello my name *name omitted for privacy* i been wit h this girl for 5 years on valentines day 2010 i decided id buy her a new car a 2005 pntiac gto ls6 well just so happens on feubuary 18 2010 she leaves me i lost my job and i just broke down what should i do? she wont talk to me or any thing. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): I bought my ex husband a £26k Phillipe Patek watch for his 40th. He asked for a divorce the next day and wouldn't give me the watch back. Put this down to experience. I still think about it 4 years on and can feel the red mist coming but there is f~~k all I can do about it. You are doing really well at maintaining your dignity and not trying to chase her down via her friends. If she fails to give you the car back knowing your circumstances she is not worth having.
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (18 February 2010):
Ok nevermind. Yea if the car is in her name than you are SOL. Better luck next time bud. Next time be cheap. Buy her a pinto instead
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (18 February 2010):
Ok first of all if the car is in your name the car is not hers!!! First thing take the car back from her. Heck add insult to injury and if you plan on defaulting on the car don't even bother telling her just stop the payments and tell the repo man where the car is. She will come out and find the car gone. Then if this story has an entertaining ending we will see her on judge mathis trying to sue you and losing miserbly. Second, suck it up and just take care of your business. I don't know if your leaving a big part of this story out on purpose. But really, why did this all happen? Why did she leave? Why did you lose your job? WHY DID YOU BUY HER A CAR? Whatever caused her to leave it didn't just start happening in a period of 4 days.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): Sorry, but I think you are out of luck. The car is hers and I see no legal way of you getting it back. A similar thing happened to a guy who I knew many years ago. He paid for a very expensive vacation for him and his girlfriend and then she left him for another guy the next week. Not the expense that you had, but still enough money to make it a real bummer. At least he got the vacation out of it.
Many of us do something like this, but not to the cost of a car like that. I bought my girlfriend a ring that would cost over $1000 today and some other fairly expensive jewelry, but at least she became my wife in the end. We live and learn and sadly I think that is all you are going to get out of this.
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reader, needtoknow35 +, writes (18 February 2010):
 well i would chuck this up to experience and learn from it really there is nothing you can do . once she sees what you would do or go thru to be with her she will come back she will eventually realized she lost a good man before she let you treat another girl that good the way you treated her she will come runnin to you give it time it will happen
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): Are you making payments under your name through a loan, on the car? If so, it's your car and you have the right to get it back. If not, then let it be a learning lesson for the next gf. I'm not sure what conditions she left you under,..if you had a huge arguement or a series of downward spirals, suddenly leading to a break up, so I can't say whether or not she pulled a fast one on you. However, any decent person, after breaking up less than five days after their partner buys them something that expensive would give them the option of getting it back. I'm just assuming she used you and ran, but without any details whether there was a nasty break up, abuse, violence, or otherwise, all I can say is never buy something that expensive again, for your gf, if you suspect the relationship falling apart any minute, for whatever reason. If she keeps the car, never associate with her on a personal level again. Also, if you honestly did nothing to provoke her actions, then consider consulting a lawyer on whether they figure you may be justified to some type of payout. If you're pissed broke, then a lawyer may not be helpful either. In that case, just find the best job you can and move on. There will always be scamming, careless minds out there, just waiting for the right moment of weakness or loophole to strike, so beating yourself up over it will not make a difference. Legal action might..if you can scrounge up the costs to fight, do it, if it bothers you enough. If not, lick your wounds and move on. If there are more details that may help in steering you in the right direction, please tell us.
It's technically her car, if it's under her name, so getting it back by asking her may be impossible. Try everything you can, though, without wrong-doing, to tell her you don't think it's right to keep the car, under such circumstances. If you have trouble contacting her to get that through, that's where the lawyer may come in handy, as they have the power to go places others can't, for communication.
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reader, Wildcamaroguy +, writes (18 February 2010):
Wildcamaroguy is verified as being by the original poster of the question i paid cash i dont do payments never liked payments and i can't get ahold of her i talk to her mother to try to get ahold of her but she wont talk to any one but her friends but im not the type of guy to ruin some one else life by bothering there friends to get questions and the car is in her name
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reader, needtoknow35 +, writes (18 February 2010):
it seems she was just waitin on that one big gift.make a suggestion that you both share the car and if thats not an option if the car is in your name then you can dispute it or take it to court especially if she havent made any payments on it thats if you are payin anything on it. if thats not an option for her leave her with the car note. since you havent had that car 60 days you know you can have them come get it it wont go on your credit but you will be out of a down payment(but thats only if you leasing it or paying on it a month)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): An 18-21 year old boy should not be buying a car for any girl until she is his wife.
If you willingly give another person a gift, that being an automobile, and you also signed over the Title to the automobile, then there is nothing you can do. If you bought the car, retained Title to the automobile, and have no written contract with the ex-girlfriend, then you may invoke our legal system to retrieve the automobile. You should be able to get the car back using the law.
Sorry dude but the old expression is right. "There's a sucker born every minute."
Take this as a very expensive life lesson.
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