How to get over these nerves of sleeping with someone different?

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hey, im gunna sound so so so stupid now, iv had sex numerous times with two previous boys, first one i was in a relationship with and the 2nd one was just a friend with 'benefits'. Now i am sort of seeing this boy, i like him but i dont want to get involved with relationships anymore, you may think im a slut but iv got hurt so bad in relationships iv given up. but me and this boy have planned to have sex, i want to 'wow' him and be kinky, but the first time sleeping with someone different makes me nervous! I chicken out of seeing him because of it, i really want to have sex with him but i need to get over these nerves! What should i do?

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