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writes:Okay so I have this best guy friend whom I love like a brother and he knows everything about me and I feel super comfortable with him, the thing is I introduced him to my best chick friend about a year ago and now she gave him her number and she won't stop texting him and now they talk about me in their texts and it makes me feel extremely irritable. I don't know what to do to get over the feeling of shall we say jealousy? Or I don't know how to get them to stop talking about me or stop talking period. Help.Thanx.=]
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reader, identifiable  +, writes (24 June 2009):
 maybe you fancy the boy then again maybe you fancy you girl mate...my point is by saying you fancy him may be a silly assumption. I believe its the thought of you not being number one in either of there lives, it seems the fact they have eachother you feel pushed aside, imagining them meeting and hanging out without you ( for you its just not right) you should be there. The fact you mention they talk about you it seems you want to put you in the centre again creating a bit of a drama (it may seem harsh) but in assuming its idole gossip is silly. It may be admiration of you e.g she a great mate. Anyways you can confront them saying i feel odd them talking about you regardless of the topic. For your jealousy just imagine the future (dont read ahead) 1. imagine your walking uo the church isle 2.where your family sit 3.where your mates sit. 4.where this guy is (sitting or standing) 5.where your friend sit or stand 6. who the bridemaids 7.who the groom ... puts thing into perspective nbest conclusion would be you not knowing ! who is who is you wedding. It dosent really mean youll marry this person or not , it shows ythere current significance in your life .
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (24 June 2009):
 I think you may feel like you have lost a unique personal relationship and disappointed that he seems to be unloyal to you after all you have shared. You need to talk to him and let him know that what he is doing is upsetting you and then speak to your friend and say the same thing. This will work better if you speak to them as if you are speaking to two close friends (although it doesn't feel like that at the moment) and let them know that you feel hurt about it.
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reader, laura585 +, writes (23 June 2009):
Tell the boy you want to be with him! Or if you just like him and dont want to be with him then you really have no say in who he does or doesn't talk to. As far as them gossiping about you, thats something friends shouldnt do. Ask them both why they talk about you, tell them you dont like it. You can't control whether or not they talk to each other but if you and this guy get together you do have more of a say in the matter.
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