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writes:Well, I am confused about his guy. I signed up for yahoo personals, and out of 160 matches, he was the only one that caught my interest. turns out, he messaged me first! i was so excited, thinking he must be interested. we exchanged 2 emails thru personals, then he told me if i would like to continue talking, he would give me is IM name, and his personal email. he did. we chatted 2 times thru IM. i told him that he was the only one out of all those ppl that i was intersted in, and he told me that "there was something about me as well". he told me that i seem like a really cool person, that i seem like im down to earth and he likes that about me, i had very nice pictures, and he was calling me sweetheart. We exchanged numbers, and he told me that he hopes to chat again. the problem is, he has been online several times, and he never IM's me. it seems that i always have to message him. and three times now i have messaged him, and he hasnt responded, he just ends up signing off. i dont understand. why did he give me is information, but yet doesnt seem to be making much of an effort to talk with me? i am very interested in him, and we have a lot in common. so what do i do? cut him off, call him out on it, ask about meeting, or what?
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reader, Dee206-7 +, writes (23 June 2009):
 Honey, men are very simple creatures, the answer is very simple; at one point he was interested, then he seen another profile and found something better for him. Please don't expect him to be considerate of your feelings because for one he doesn't know you and don't care. So shrug it off, never write him again, he has just let you know he is a flake. Move on, Next!
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (23 June 2009):
 Anything could have happened but the way I see it he has cooled off for some reason. The fact that he's not that keen anymore should tell you that he isn't interested anymore. Sure he told you all those things but I have learned from too many experiences to count that it doesn't matter what a guy tells you, actions always speak louder than words. If he's not making the effort to stay in contact or even to ask to meet you, he's not interested. He could have been chatting to someone else who he's interested in more and wants to pursue that. He could already have a girlfriend and just realized that he's gotten himself too deep here, he could be married, who knows. It's too hard to tell anything online (even in the real world it's hard) so if I was you I wouldn't waste much energy trying to figure this one out.
He knows you're interested, he has your contact details, let him contact you if he wants. Don't email him, don't ask him to meet, don't do anything. You emailing him or calling won't change a thing, it won't make him suddenly realize he wants you really badly.
It doesn't matter that he gave you all that info. Could have been a heat of the moment thing and he's now changed his mind for whatever reason. Respect his decision and move on. I bet you that a guy who is right for you will not treat you like this. And if this guy suddenly starts chatting to you, I'd think twice about responding. If he was genuinely interested he wouldn't have ignored you three times. If something came up in his life and he wasnt able to correspond, meet, talk, etc but he was interested, he would have told you to make sure someone else doesn't snatch you up.
Let him go, move on to something much better and preserve your self-respect.
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