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writes:okay..my relation ship is wonderful i tould him about me and his best friend and he wasnt as mad as i thout he should be,but that isnt my question..my question is i dont think im a very good g/f..i have cheated and argued with him..my past is very tramatizing but it doesnt matter what happened in my past..rite..i just dont feel he needs someone like me i make him mad all the time....and i also hurt him all the time and i dont like it....so if anyomne has any advice can u please help me out...
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (1 February 2008):
 Your past does matter sadly, if you have had bad experiences then they will inform your current behaviour whether you are aware of it or not. I think its important not to beat yourself up about it too much; yes you are in the wrong with the cheating but you are at the end of the day a human being who has been through some rough stuff, in other words keep a sense of proportion.
It's all very well telling people to control themselves but often instincts overide our ability to consciously control our actions and I think that is what is happening here and primarily its your fear which stems from these past experiences. I do however agree that it is something you can work on with your bf and there are things he can do to help you through this. You need to start talking about your past and how these experiences made you feel if not with your bf then maybe a trusted adult. Good luck :)
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reader, imakeuhotnwet  +, writes (1 February 2008):
Let's face it guys can have all the sex they want. It's the women that have to 'behave' and be 'good girls'. That's understandable because it's the girls that get pregnant. So, if you don't get careless, why shouldn't you have all the fun you want too. After all, 'you're only young once' and your body is as sexy as it will ever be. So why louse things up for yourself by depriving yourself of what your body naturally wants. You are fully equipped and ready for all the sexcitement you want, as long as you don't make any stupid mistakes. Everyone lives 2 lives a public life where you are a 'good girl' and a personal life that you are entitled to keep your own intimacies private. So do what he is doing and have fun. Date all the guys you like. You're too young to waste all you have on any one guy and what ever you do on a date is your own business. Since we are a thousand mile apart and total strangers, we can be as open with each other as you like and I'm sure I can give you a guys point of view which will shock you but you should know how things really are, not the way you wish things were. Guys are very devious with you gals for good (and selfish) reasons and 'forewarned is forearmed'. I can teach you everything you need to know to maximize your love life and help you KEEP SMILING! Any questions?
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reader, imakeuhotnwet +, writes (1 February 2008):
Life is too enjoy and the best time is when you're young. It's very natural for a young girl to want sex after all you have all the female 'equipment' and once you start using it and feel the greatest physical pleasue in life, it's to late to stop because all you can do is keep masterbating alone to satisfy your sexual needs. If your bf can keep filling your emptiness with pleasure, great! you can keep 'dating' him as long as you like for the sex. After all, you are a woman now and every woman need a man. There is nothing dirty about sex but it is very stupid to 'sleep around'. The trick is to let everyone think you're a 'good girl' and still have all tyhe 'fun' you want. This is the 21st century and sex is no longer a sin. So, don't let a guilty conscience screw up your love life. Feel freer to discuss this with me. I will be completely honest and totally open with you. Feel free to disagree with me and we can learn from each other. The important thing is that you don't make any stupid mistakes, keep enjoying your life (in public and in private) and KEEP SMILING! I've made a lot of gals hotnwet and they're not complaining and their parents still love them and they're still 'nice girls'[. What you have is too good to go to waste waiting 10 years for 'Mr. Wrong'. Do you agree?
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reader, rcn +, writes (1 February 2008):
 Why don't you tell us about what you went through in the past. I'll tell you, you'll be surprised of just how much our past plays in current choices and behaviors. We're here to help you, not just give you a short time fix.
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reader, 15 YR OLD GUY  +, writes (1 February 2008):
hae even tho im 15 i have matured alot for my age and i know alot of girls who are just like you you need to really look whats going on and really think before you act i know that it is hard to control sometimes but think if you truely care for this guy u can make ity work sit down with him and talk to him about it it may be a hard thing to do but its alot harder not to talk to him then just to keep quiet honey im not trying to put you down it sounds like you really care for this guy and i appreciate that but you have alot more grpwing up to do and self control comes with age i hope i helped
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