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writes:Rite...one my best friends is this girl I likerecently weve been pretty close and everyone thinks that were headed for a relationshipthe thing is that 2day a mutual friend came up 2 me and asked me if I liked her...i truthfully said yes...then he tells me that he's talked 2 her and apprently I'm just her best guy-friend and she doesn't like me that wayso the thing is...what do I do now? how do I get over her without avoiding her because thatll b a bit suspcious since rite now, we spend a good part of the school-day together
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): I would go on what she tells you herself, not what another guy tells you. He could be competing.
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reader, binhquangdao  +, writes (18 April 2008):
 dont' avoid and your best friend might be jealous when it comes to relationship no matter who it is don't believe he said she said stuff go to your girl best friend tell her how you feel and then ask her how she feels then move on from there if you love her that much she will know and she will respect it dont' just avoid her all together that is the wussy way out and she's been there for you so be there for her and be honest to her and as for your best friend he's shouldn't interfere like that about relationship
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (18 April 2008):
 Unfortunately, you really can't avoid her or ignore the whole situation. I suspect that she probably knows that you know too, friends talk. I think that I would sit her down quietly somewhere and hash it out with her. A bit of clearing the air will at the very least confirm what your friend said and then you can get over it. The first conversation is the hardest after hearing news like this, afterwards, it will get less awkward and finally, it may actually start feeling normal again. I'm sorry for your disappointment, rest assured, there are other girls at the school that are probably happy that you are single and available. XXX Hugs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008):
Start looking into other girls. It is THE way to move out of this. Every possible outcome in the book is pointing you in the same direction:
-- It makes you look less desperate to your crush/friend, and it will gradually make you BE a little less desperate even though it won't feel that way at first. That helps restore the friendship & comfort level again. It gets it over the "lump" that's been added lately.
-- Her seeing other girls liking you is the only thing that might possibly change your crush/friend's view of you. It probably still will not change her view of you, but at least it won't hurt. It's the only thing that even stands a snowball's chance in hell of changing it.
-- And if you don't move on right now, continuing to hang on your crush/friend will only make it even less likely that her feelings will ever change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): Well first off you should actually ask her if you should ask her yourself, even if maybe what a the mutual said might be true, you gotta always ask the person.
Thought be prepared to what shes gonna say.
and if it doesnt turn out good. than just be happy that you got her as one of your close friends and there is other girls around you just gotta look.
and who knows maybe she might fall for you just not now. so have your options open.
and good luck!
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