A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am in a serious relationship with my boyfriend we are engaged and have a son, we are very happy together. The thing is he has a twin brother and they are very close. His brother has always had an alcohol problem we even had him live with us for a year to try and help him. Anyway when his brother has had a few he starts to act very strangely with me we often talk and have always got on well as friends but once he has a drink he tells me how he envies his brother for having me and our son and how he wishes he could have us. It makes me very uncomfortable and i havent the heart to tell him where to go i just ignore him but i am really worried one day he is going to try something. He arrived on my doorstep the other mornin drunk knowing full well my fiance was at work he said he was worried as he could hear voices telling him to do stuff so i let him in and he started making remarks about how we could have this life together and again i ignored him but i just dont know what to do is ther somthing wrong with him or is he putting it on to get close to me?
View related questions:
at work, drunk, engaged, fiance Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, superdopah +, writes (3 November 2007):
twins always get treated the same so he proberly is very jealous of his brother, but i wouldnt take it as a come on to you he wants the whole package he wants to be his brother, i think you should talk to your fiance about this. once he quits boozing he will soon see he can have it to, just not with you!
A
male
reader, rcn  +, writes (3 November 2007):
 I think I'd worry about what he could be capable of doing. You and your boyfriend are going to have to set clear boundaries.
When my daughter was born. My brother too had a alcohol problem. You can't help them unless they want help themselves. We had to tell him. We don't want alcohol or drugs in front of our our child, so if he were to stop by at anytime, he's not welcome unless he's sober. I didn't see him for a while, but then he came around every once in a while, but without being drunk.
This is your family. It's your job to protect it, and set boundaries of what will and what will not be allowed abound it.
As far as hearing voices, that's something for a psychologist, not for you. Hearing voices is a mental illness. He needs help.
...............................
|
