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*isty lady
writes:Hi. I got together with a wonderful man 12 years ago. It didnt last long,maybe 2 months but it was blissfull. Sadly though I listened to my well meaning friends and left him. He had a bad track record with women and had been to prison for driving offences. It is now 12 years on an I still miss him. I know where he lives, but dont know if hes single. Should I just knock the door or write or what. Even if its just as friends I want to be back in his life.We havent spoken or seen each other in the 12 years.Help .... Reply to this Question
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reader, misty lady +, writes (10 June 2009):
misty lady is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi. Just a quick update. I put a note through his door and 2 weeks later he called. We met up Friday night and again on Saturday. We had a great time and he promised to text me to sort out a night this week to meet up. He text yesterday saying he has to go away with work but that he,l text me soon. I think thats the brush off but you never know.Thanks for all the answers
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reader, misty lady +, writes (12 May 2009):
misty lady is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHanks everyone. Im normally such a rational person and the desire to get in touch with him over the last few weeks has been overwhelming. Nothing has happened in my life recently so I dont know whats happening in my mind. I did a bit of investigating and hes the only person on the voters roll at his address but yes he could be in jail for all I know. I think I will post a quick note suggesting a coffee and then thats the ball in his court. If I get no reply then at least I tried.......
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reader, mikefromms  +, writes (12 May 2009):
Go get some counselling. You deserve better than that man. Listen to your friends. It took me years, about 15 years to really get over my ex-wife--15 years. She didn't care an ounce about me. What a waste of time thinking about her! There are some really good men in the world. It's not all about sex, either. Look at the man as a whole being, not just looks and romance. If a man is interested in you and really loves you, protects you, supports you emotionally and financally, and you really like each other, the romance and intimacy will be there like with none oher.
Move on, find a way. The guy is probably in jail now. You can't fix people
Mikefromms
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2009): I've often thought of doing the same thing, simply to say "Hi, how're you doin'?" but I doubt it would be the same second time around - especially 12 years on. You have a happy memory of how it was when you were around 20 years of age but today's reality may well be somewhat different. However, if you must try to rekindle an old flame or whatever, if I were you I'd write rather than knock on his door.
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reader, sammi star +, writes (12 May 2009):
 I recently got back in touch with an old flame that I haven't seen for 8 years. My friends didn't like him at the time and they warned me to stay away this time. I didn't listen and got caught up in the memories. I've never believed it when people say memories are best left at that but I really do now. People change, you should just let it be. I know it's hard but at the moment you have some nice memories of this guy right? you don't want to taint them
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