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writes:i haven't heard from my girlfriend for over a weekwe're in college together and while we were in classes our r/s was fine. we would see each other and go on dates a couple times a week and would do our homework together. she was always loving and always called me to say she loves me and so on. we've been going out for about a year.towards the end of the term, like you know when finals is coming up, she started to pull back a little, she said it was because of all the stress of finals. she wasn't calling as often and wasn't being quite as affectionate but i understood because yeah finals are hard. then after finals were done she went home to see her family for the holidays. the first couple days she was home she texted me and would tell me she'll call me later but then she never did. i would just say ok call me when you get a chance, and for a few days she did respond to my texts, but suddenly she disappeared completely.this was almost two weeks agowe had plans to go on a few dates because i had christmas gifts for her and we wanted to be able to see each other. neither of us have a driver license and so i can't go out to see her or the other way around. her family gave her the ride home and one of her cousins was supposed to give her a ride back to town.i've been trying to text and call her every so often but she never answers or even acknowledges that i called. it's like she disappeared! she is completely unresponsive to me. at first i didn't get worked up, like the first few days, i decided yeah it's christmas season and she might just be busy catching up with family and whatnot and eventually she'll call back, but it's now been like almost two weeks and she hasn't even acknowledged any of the messages i've sent her! i mean even if she's swamped with family time can't she take a few seconds to acknowledge my text? i'm really really worried about her! and what about our date? that's already come and gone and she never even called to say she wasn't going to make it! I assumed she wasn't because i hadn't heard from her for three days already at that point!i'm now getting terrified about what this could mean! i'm worried something bad might have happened to her, or maybe she decided, or her family convinced her, that she shouldn't be with me! or who knows what! it's been long enough now that my mind is going absolutely crazy with the possibilities of what could be happening to her. i know her family never liked me a whole lot, but she told me her family never has liked any of the guys she's liked, because they're just that kind of family who is having trouble letting go, so she told me not to take offense to it and eventually they'd warm up to me. but this means i'm not sure if contacting her family is a good idea or not, and I don't even have numbers for them, only email addresses.what should I do now? i feel almost like i've been silently dumped for no reason! i don't know what i should be thinking or doing and it's starting to really get to me! she's never ever said anything to me recently about even feeling upset about our r/s or anything! i'm just so confused!help???
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reader, elise22  +, writes (28 December 2012):
 I'm sorry to say it but I think you're right to worry. Either something has happened that makes her physically incapable of contacting you (but don't just assume this because it's hardly ever the case), or something has happened that made her not want to contact you.
It might be that she realised she didn't want to be with you anymore and was too scared to tell you, or maybe you're right and her family convinced her (or took her phone and computer). Or she just forgot about you because of other things, but that wouldn't be a good sign either. Anyhow, if she had wanted to talk to you and nothing was wrong, she would have.
I think if I were you I would email her family (if you can't contact any of her friends), just to tell them you haven't heard from her in two weeks and you're worried that she's hurt. That's not pushy, I think it's normal and considerate for a boyfriend of a year. If anything they should like you more for that.
Good luck and I hope it still works out!
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