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writes:I'm a mixed Italian/South African (white) guy. The reason I said this is so you can more understand what I look like, not for a racial reason. I have more Italian features than the "boer" features. Thing is, I'm really really hairy everywhere, except for on my back. I have a dark complexion ( like most Italians) and dark hair on my whole body.I'm also gay, and I was wondering if guys are put off by my really hairy ass. I'd like to go for laser one day, but even that seems daunting, coz I'm already shy of what it looks like. I haven't been with anyone, sexually because I'm afraid of ass exposure. I was just wondering if there's hope.
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reader, crazybeast +, writes (24 April 2011):
 I for one like Love hairy guys. But its down to YOUR happiness so if you feel is effecting your relationships or confidence you could always get it removed. Xx Beasty xX
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2011): Lots of people find hairy bodies very sexy so dont worry too much. You can always wax areas or have laser treatment. If you go for laser dont use beauty salons. They arent noramlly equipt with the proper expensive lasers, just cheaper and weaker ones that do a temporary job. So use a proper skin clinic. Phone them and explain what you want done and that you are a little shy. They will put you at your ease. Ive recently had some removal on a different area and its brilliant. The treatment works best on dark hair/ pale skin combo, so keep out of the sun if you plan to go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2011): http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bear_(gay_culture)
Yes, look OP men are naturally hairy and apart from personal preference most gay men don't care about body hair too much on their partners, some even love it and find it a huge turn on.
OP I think you've completely let cultural bias and media portrayals wreck your image of what is considered attractive in the gay community. Most gay men you see in film and television are these mincing, feminine, hairless stereotypes that wear makeup, wax all their body hair off that just isn't reality. While lots do and it is common, there is every kind of man in the gay community from hairy, burly bikers to skinny nerds. The fact is OP gay men like every other kind of gay man and are not going to be bothered by hair on your butt when they've gotten intimate with you. Gay men aren't as shallow as they're made out to be, you're a gay man, think of your own preferences.
Don't let any physical feature put you off going out there and dating. We all have something we don't like about ourselves physically but we don't let it bother us because for the most part it doesn't bother our partners.
If you ever start dating a guy that doesn't like it then they'll just let you know and you can wax it for them. No big deal.
I used to live with a gay couple and one of the guys was a bear. He really was big and very hairy. Both of those guys were straight-acting, in fact most gay men I've known have been straight-acting regular guys.
Just get out there and date, don't be afraid. You'll meet some assholes that might care but most don't.
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reader, Ima FreAk! +, writes (11 April 2011):
 Hiyaaaa,You shouldn't worry about being hairy because Italians are considered as sexy!!!!!!!!!!!!! :P So honestly don't worry.If someone truly loves you they would accept who you are and how hairy you are too! So go out and find one because no one will care about those kinda features it's what matters in the heart!If it really bugs you try shaving or waxing (ok maybe that one will hurt) but try shaving, laser could be good but expensive!Honestly you shouldn't be ashamed because we all have things we don't like about your body so get yourself a wonderful boyfriend because I'm pretty sure he will accept just the way you are!And remember: Nobody is perfect! Go with the imperfection is fun!Hope my advice helps!Good luck!Lots of love,Ima FreAk!x
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