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writes:Ok. I need help i have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years. Right now i am having major trust issues... i have no reason not to trust him but for some weird reason i think something up. Not much has changed about him but his presence feels different. I am probably being paranoid but i dunno, and i feel silly asking cause he would more than likely get mad for me thinking such a thing. I dunno how to get these thoughts out of my head, and i know he is sick of my not trusting him, how do i build up my trust in him and myself. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): Tell him you feel bad about bringing it up and have a conversation about trust in general. See if he has ever been in situations where he didn't trust. If possible, try and look at the past and any possible reasons you may be bringing with you that caused you not to trust. If you can find these, it could put things into context and assure your boyfriend that it's not just about him.
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reader, Isabella1974  +, writes (13 May 2008):
 Hello there,
Try to talk to him about how you are feeling? dont feel silly, just sit down and talk to him about your concerns and that you dont know why you are feeling this way. He will listen to your concerns and should put you at rest. Try not be accuse him of anything, i am not saying you are, just listen to what he has to say, i know sometimes men can be difficult when it comes to them talking about their problems.
If you feel something is up and his presence feels different, its possibly that there is something on his mind that he cant talk about, maybe he is stressed or worried about something and has got nothing to do with anything else.
Just a thought, have you been cheated on in the past, if so, then maybe you are afraid he will do the same, which is not true, just a thought i had.
It could be nothing sweety, but you need to talk with him, hope this helps you.
Good luck xx
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reader, sweetheart03 +, writes (13 May 2008):
Listen to your gut feeling....if you feel somethings up and your ignoring it that's has a lot to do with why your having these issues!! Listen to your gut! Find out! Look into it and don't push it off like its nothing. And if you dig deep and find nothing then you can relax and learn to trust him. If you have had cheaters in your life before that could be why you don't trust him!!!! You must trust him once you find out he's faithful....good luck but listen to your gut!!
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