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writes:hey alli have this prob that i cant talk to ppl. i mean its not a problem when we are more than 2 ppl. but i always get stuck when theres only one person near me. i was always like this, and always was scared to be in a 1on1 situation. thats why i never asked a girl to go out cuz i was scared to find nothing to talk about.it even happens on the internet when im chattin with some1 1on1.when i see somebody i know from school at the bus stop or see them on the street, no matter how close they are to me, i always stress out and get stuck and find nothing to talk about.thats why alot of ppl say im boring, thats why ive never asked a girl out. but i would ask, and im not boring at all i just got this wierd problemwhy is this happenning? how can i get over it?
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reader, Dr Bex  +, writes (20 January 2010):
You are not boring by any means you are just shy and have no confidence in social situations. If you are conscious of feeling nervous and that you can't make conversation then our bodies and mind just shut off and we end up not being able to socialise. There are lots of people out there who are the same as you. Just try and be yourself around other people and if you fancy a girl then try and pluck up the courage to ask her out. Even if you just strike up a conversation with her and make friends. The more you are in these social situations the easier they'll get. Just think to yourself you are confident and go for it. Everyone is shy at some stage in their lives - its just how yhou deal with it. You've proven you are not boring by having conversations online. Be positive about yourself and learn to like yourself.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 January 2010):
I was always shy. I find the best thing you can do is ask questions to the person you want to talk to. Ask them about their day, their hobbies etc, then listen to them and let you answer questions. That helped me.
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