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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes: I have been married for 11 years and have 2 kids. My husband and i have had sex 2 times this year and I am very scared of rejection so i guess it is sort of my fault but i have tried and all he does is take it as a joke and go to sleep. I am only 35 and he is 39. What should I do? Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, babomi +, writes (13 October 2008):
start a seduction campaign, sex is not an intellectual activity, it s a physical one, so not much of a point to talk about it, action works better!
try to put a bit of sensuality into your life, just by paying attention to your physical feelings like a hot shower, the contact of a soft fabric, eating a chocolate, ... if u live your sensuality with more intensity than usual, your partner will notice,
it s the inner part : to make you feel good
the outer part is a few practical steps : pamper yourself, buy new underwear, start a diet, work out, change haircuts, ... to make you look good
if he dismisses your actual attempts as jokes, i d recommend you not to take the first step or to bring the topic back till he realizes the changes and the new sexy you
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