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writes:the last time I wrote on Cupid was in January. It was about my ex boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me the week before Halloween of 2010. When he had broke up with me he told me he wanted to be free, and just live life to the fullest with out any attachment. So I took his word for it. Comes to find out in November after thanksgiving that he got someone he works with PREGNANT! this lady is already a baggage on her own. she was previously married and she already has a child from her ex husband. My x boyfriend is 8 years younger than this women he got pregnant. Somewhere in my heart I ended up forgiving him instead of kicking him to the curb right there and than after him getting her pregnant. Normally the girlfriend would never want anything to do with their boyfriend if they did that to them, but me it was different I forgave him and wanted to be with him still. We would see each other from December all the way until the end of January. Towards the end of January he had ended things with me on bad terms because this girl threatened him that he was not going to have any contact with his baby, and that the baby was not going to carry his last name. Keep in mind these two work with each other. and even when we were together this girl has been obsessing over my ex boyfriend. But he had gave in to her and ended up sleeping with her to get her pregnant. There is not a moment that I dont cry, not a moment that I dont feel the way I feel. and I feel that I am suffering and he and this hag is living life to the fullest. He had never graduated high school to complete his high school diploma, if anything I was his support and encourager to go to Adult Ed to get his high school Diploma I think for the 3 years we were together, I am the only person that dealt with him and put up with him. NOT even his own family.I was at his job waiting for him at work one day in the parking lot, next to my car. And this lady (baby momma) approaches me out of no where... and right there and than I was confused of who she is. When she started questioning me she went ahead called the police, and told the police that I had pushed her and threatened her previously to kill her and the baby after the baby is born. Now I have to appear in court because of them. I seriously want to forget about him for life, but how do I go about doing that... what should I do please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): hiya, my advice is that you deserve better. this man sounds selfish and wants everything his own way. stop all contact with him. he probably had this woman lined up before he ended with you. it takes two to make a baby, and it takes both to make sure they have protection, if they had no intention of having a kid together.they sound as if they deserve one another! delete all contact numbers and email address'. he will probably try and crawl back when the going gets tough because hes still not mature enough to accept the concequences of his actions.
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reader, ashley187 +, writes (10 February 2011):
 WOW, after court you need to stay away from both of them. He didn't finish school and you tried to make him a better person, but you can't make someone better if they don't want to be better. Sounds to me like YOU are the better person and definitely deserve better! These two will have nothing but problems and most likely a short lived relationship and even after they don't make it together (and he will try to come backk) say NO. You do not need any part of that in your life. This party has barely even started yet and look where it got you already! As for court, if she is lying-- ask them to show you a video of the parking lot! Good luck and steer clear of them!!!
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