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30-35,
*targirl
writes:hi everyonei have this huge drama going on. i have a best friend who is a guy and me and him are well were really close. he told me he liked my other best friend and that all he could ever think about was her. so i was like ok. then in a couple of days i developed a crush on one of my brothers friend who's in the same grade as me. and i told my best guy friend and hes like oh hes such a jerk i hate him why do you like him? and im like hes really nice to me i love talking to him. so then i really like him now and i told my best friend. and he got angry and said the same thing agian. so then i ate lunch with my crush and i always with my best friend so i told my friend who was right next to him i was leaving to eat lunch with him so he probably heard so i left, and when i came back he yelled at me "i cant believe you ditched him for me" what the heck bro all these things that werent neccssary. so he got really mad at me. then in a day he told me he was going to tell me why he was so mad. the next day he told me he liked me and he was jealous and i was shocked. one week passed and school ended and i told him i didnt like him and he was like why .... i can change.... and we havent talked ever since. i called him 3 times yesterday and he hasnt picked up. what should i do?
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reader, stargirl +, writes (9 June 2007):
stargirl is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you to all those who gave me advice. i took it in consideration thanx! God Bless
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reader, princessleia  +, writes (8 June 2007):
 when he told you he liked your other friend he obviously was trying to gauge ur reaction to see if u liked him too. when you decided to tell him all about the guy u liked he let his jealousy get the better of him... but you shouldnt hold it against him.
he is probably just as freaked out by his feelings for you as you are...yet he feels he is not good enough and that is why he was upset that u went to sit with your crush. he probably felf that ths new guy would change things between you as you always eat lunch together.
it probably took a lot of courage for him to tell you how he feels... so cut the guy a little slack...he probably feels he cant measure up to your crush.
as for his avoidance of you ...its just his way of trying to deal with his feelings...
if you really have no feelings for this guy you need to explain it to him gently. tell him that you love him in a friend way that he is the closest and dearest friend that you have and you cant live with out him. tell him that you understand his need to be away from you but that you dont want this to affect your relationship...and dont expect you to just let ur friendship go.
this will make him feel needed and hopefully he will begin to come round.. there will be some weirdness at first and you need to be prepared to fight for him, show him that u want to remain friends.
if he doesnt answer your calls write him a letter, its more personal...
tell me how it all works out
and ask if u need more advice
leia
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reader, nologo  +, writes (8 June 2007):
 Theoretically you should take a break.
Focus on your feelings about all this.
However, I do understand that you need practical advice here.
Best friend has a feeling for you, but it is not THE feeling.
You are involved in "huge drama" and became a character here.
Another view: you shouldn't be so much influenced by friends.
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