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writes:Hey,this is prob a real stupid question and i feel stupid for even askin it. Today i got a text from my boyfriend out of the blue saying "hmmm what to get what to get.." I didn't know what he meant from this as thats all he said not even hi how are you or hows work today!!Im thinkin that maybe he was txtin someone else and sent it to me by mistake. I have serious trust issues to the point that its taking over my every thought. Its probably because last sept sent a suggestive text to another girl and he sent that to me by mistake aswel!! We broke up for a while but got back together. That text said "she cant be more unreal than you, are you setting me up...haha" So he left himself wide open to be setup and complimented another girl in that 1 text. Its obvious i cant forget bout this and i cant move on. Everything he does makes me think he's up to something. I dont know how i can be with him and trust him!! Do you think that text today was a bit strange...when i asked what he meant he said he was thinkin what xmas present to get me!!!!! Its just a bit strange. I really cant ask him anymore questions coz ive asked so many since we got bak together that i dont want to drive him away or annoy him. I know he is getting fed up of all my questions. How do i deal with him..please help. i dont even know how to act around him anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): If you need to confirm your fears, sneak a peek at his phone if you get the chance. If he's sent you a couple of texts by mistake, chances are that whoever the text was meant for will be quite close to your name/number in his phone book.
If nothing suspicious is in there, relax and talk more. People don't seem to talk much these days, for some reason they'd rather text each other which is a sad state of affairs really.
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reader, elitzabeth  +, writes (18 December 2007):
 I remember your question back on september; and I still belive the same thing you are over reacting. Belive me, that meant nothing, don't over think things or try to find the reason behind it....not a big deal.. ok..
hope it helps
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (18 December 2007):
 When I read it, I thought that he was probably wondering what Christmas present to get you. When I got to the end of your post and found out that he had said the same thing, that confirmed it for me. It's normal that you worry about his texts if you've had problems there before, but I think that this time he was probably just trying to be cute and let you know he was thinking about you.
You two need to calm down and bring the communication back into your relationship. You need to be able to trust him perfectly to be at ease with him, and he needs to accept the fact that you have trust issues and are going to need to verify things for a while.
Good luck.
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