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writes:I love my boyfriend so much but I think I am killing my relationship. I cant stop myself from being so intense and bitchy. I know we're at breaking point as I think I have pushed him to the limit. he's been so pateint and he used to love me so much, but I can see in his eyes that he's on the verge of getting rid of me. everyting has changed and I dont know how to get back what we had. please help, how can I save this relationship. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): I guess you're halfway there knowing that you have a problem with your attitude, but only you can change it. Does it happen at a certain time of the month or something? If so, there's stuff like evening primrose oil that can help with mood swings that you can get from the chemists. Have a word with the pharmacist.
I also guess he'd like the 'old you' back again so maybe he's willing to work at it, but you'll have to rein in your bitchiness. Every man has a limit of how much crap he'll take and if he's reached his and is about to leg it, you'll just have to live with it and learn from the experience for your next relationship.
You could make a start by profusely apologising and throwing yourself at his mercy and promising to be a bit more friendly in future.
Hope it all works out for the best.
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): Great advice about writing a letter.... give him time to digest it. It will take heat out of saying it verbally which could lead to an argument and you not saying how you feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): Ok, you know you've done wrong, but do you know why you're behaving like this? Has something triggered this or how long has this been going on?
He's been patient with you, which means he's willing to give you a chance, you know, wait for you because he doesn't wnt to lose you. Some guys would go "Right! I've had enough of this. It's over!" as soon as their girlfriends get a bit moody or have been distant. But your boyfriend waited and I think that says alot.
I would get your boyfriend, sit him down and apologise for how you've been behaving and that you regret it, and if you can explain why you've been acting like that. Explain to him that you don't want to lose him, and you're thankful for him waiting. Just let all your feelings out, and try and make him understand.
I hope this helped.
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reader, -NothingLasts4ever- +, writes (2 January 2008):
 Tell your boyfriend how you feel. If you tell him how much you love him and all that then maybe he won't dump you. And if you talk to him about how you feel you could ask to start a fresh and forget about everything that's happened between you both.
I hope he understands and you stay together
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reader, hellogoodbye123 +, writes (2 January 2008):
First of all you need to be honest with him. However you feel best to express this - i recommend either taking him out for a meal and saying "i have something to talk to you about or if that seems to nerve wracking, write him an old fashioned letter. Tell him everything you are feeling: how much you love him (and specific things that you love about him), any of your insecurities, why you have been being so bitchy around him etc. and then tell him that you know you have been single-handedly ruining your amazing relationship and you deeply regret that and are going to make an effort to stop.
Then ask him what he would like to change about you, whether he'd like you to stop saying certain things or to give him a bit of space.
And most importantly, follow through with your promises!!
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