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writes:can anyone please help me?to be honest i dn't know what is wrong with me.i feel like im not happy with my life.i have no drive, motivation or get up and go, for life.i feel like i find it so hard to live a normal life, im so disorganised, and i really feel like doing nothing.i am only 22 and im haveing thoughts of what is the point in liveing life.i think i need to live a more active organised life but i just feel like i have no energy to normal evryday life stuff.i meant to be starting college in september but i have been thinking recently what will be the point in the end of it all because when i have acheved something i will have to go and lead a normal life, wich will be boring. now im not saying that i want to live the live of a popstar or an actress, i m just saying i want to live a life where i feel like liveing. life makes me feel misurable, and what is the point. and when i do feel like liveing, it all feels like alot of hard work. oh aswell i have tryed things to help me get more organised like an achevment book, but it feels so hard to do.why am i liveing life where i feel like a child emotionaly and mentaly, and feel like i need an adult to tell what to do.please help anyone, i carnt carry on liveing like this. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2010): Hi,
I have the same problem as you. I am 27, a lawyer, I have a masters degree, and I am CEO of a promising technology company. I am also a pretty girl and I have a figure like a model. But I hate life. I have no motivation. I lived and accomplished for my father, becasue I love him. But he is old and dying and now what. I want to kill myself. I have nothing. THe only motivation in this life is love. If you don't love anything you will die. Without love, people don't exist. Some people love themselves, some people love women, some people love their children and family. But unless you find something you love, you will die.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (28 July 2008):
 My 26 yr old brother is going through the same kind of thing as you, and our family is working very hard to get it sorted out. He sees a counsellor because he has a problem with cocaine. He needs my mum to take care of everyday things people take for granted like shopping, putting electric on his metre. I was talking to him yesterday and asked him what would happen if mum didn't literally have control of his bank card, pay his rent, pick him up, take him shopping and correspond with people he owes money like water rates, council tax. He said they wouldn't get paid because he hasn't got the energy to do those things, he would spend his money on booze, drugs and would starve, basically he hasn't got the notion to look after himself. He cant hold a job down anymore, its got worse over the last 2 years and the lack of concentration is the worst on him. He is almost on a high one minute (and I don't mean a drug induced high) then crashes down the next. We did also wonder about Bi polar, but since reading up on ADHD, I personally think he has that, and so does his counsellor.Keep us updated on you and i will let you know if we find out anymore about him anytime soon.C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): Hi Babes,
Thanks for the update, that was very kind of you. Also thank you for your letter. I must admit, that I am a little worried about you. Some of the things you say also makes me think that you have depression. Don't worry, depression can be treated nowadays and doctor's understand. Please print out the question you asked us and your response to me and give it too your doctor. They will be able to help you, they are very good at this kind of thing. I am very worried about you, I think you may have this sickness and it's making your life too hard. Please make an appointment to see your doctor on Monday. You can still do some of the things we've suggested to help you out, but you need to see a doctor right away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have just read the symptoms of people with ADHD/ADD, and i have realised that i have ADD. i now no the ressons for the way i have been acting my whole life and it's because i have ADD, which can also cause deppresion.
it basicaly says that people with ADD, have trouble concentrating and focusing, it's not there fault they just carn't help but switch off. they is why i feel like it's so hard for me to live life. to me it almost feels like i need an adult around me guiding me on how i should live my life and telling me how to be organized. but i think that people with ADD/ADHD are very misunderstood, people will think they are being acward but they do genraly strugle with liveing there live, well that's me anyway.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (26 July 2008):
Hi again
Definately visit your gp. I dont agree with the other poster personally, you cant just pick yourself up if you have depression. Sometimes, and usually most the time if someone really has depression, they need some meds. There is no shame in that. Its an imbalance in the brain of Serratonin. And only meds can treat that. Snappin out of it just isn't an option. People take meds for high blood pressure, diabetes, all kinds of ailments, why hould depession be any different.
Good luck.
C xxxxx
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reader, lovehate +, writes (25 July 2008):
 This lack of self motivation sounds a lot like depression.
I went through it at 14 - Age doesn't matter.
Too be honest, i know it may sound hard at the moment but the only way to stop this depression is to pick yourself up and realise that there really is something worth living for- ofcourse there is!
I think a lot of people at one point in their life think...what is the point?! But you just can't think like that. Who knows the best things come when you least expect them to, so just go out with friends, have fun, be with your family, take life a little more freely soon you will realise that all the good times way up the bad trust me!
All the luck in the world! XXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): Thanks for the update babes. You could also check out some stuff done by Anthony Robbins, a motivotional life coach on the net and on youtube. He's even offering people a free book. I'm exactly like you, but I've been diagnoised by doctors. I find that Anthony Robbins inspirational words and logical thinking can motivate me and make me realise that I can do anything I want to do, as long as I make plans.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mfyqNEC2roU
http://london.adzooks.co.uk/for-sale/music-films-books-games/by-anthony-robbins-offers-successful-life-strategies-in-free-book-1520396.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou so much everyone for your comment they mean a agreat deal to me. iv'e always been abit of an unrealistic person who has trouble liveing life but it shows more so now, that i have left home.
i think that i do have adhd/add, and deppresion, i will go to the doctors.
coping, that is egzactly what i feel like im haveing troubles with, but i know that there is only me that is reliable for myself and nobody can live my life for me.
i should feel really lucky i supoce that im getting the opurtunity to go to college and get skills to work in more than just a shop job where i use to get treated badly.
i think seeing more people would help me as im quite isolated at the moment and im going to be starting swiming soon.
thankyou so much, it means alot to here advice from strangers wh o are not in my life.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (25 July 2008):
It sounds like you have depression. That can cause lack of motivation and organisational skills and tiredness and make you want to stay in bed all day wondering what the point is.
I would suggest you see a doctor because they can give you something to give you your energy back. Once they have done that the rest is up to you.
You have to get some dreams or aspirations and then kick your arse into gear. Aim to go somewhere with you life and do it.
Give yourself and boot up the bum and then go for it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (25 July 2008):
Hi
Have you been to a doctor and explained all that? You could be depressed or even have ADHD. Look up adult ADHD/ADD in google. Could be a multitude of reasons for you feeling that way, its not normal and you shouldn't have to live feeling that way.
Get it sorted.
C xxxxx
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reader, MissAgonyAuntx +, writes (25 July 2008):
 I think you need to start an hobbie find something that interests you. Starting this college coarse in September will be great for you and when you finnish it will be a great achievement and maybe you could get a job with your new skill. It sounds like your feeling a bit depressed and getting yourself out with some friends will cheer you up. As for not been organised keep a diary and plan things better if you want to change your life around you need to help your self if things do get worse then see a doctor you might just need a bit of help with coping good luck X
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