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writes: my daughters father and i broke up march 15 2012, it took me forever to get over him! I started dating my current boyfriend Feb 15. Me and my boyfriend got into a fight and he went back home he lived 30 minutes away. I have my own place and he stayed with me everyday for 3 months. Any way he went back home Monday he said we just needed some space from each other he said he wanted to spend time with his friends and family. My daughters father/my ex just had another baby yesterday i was happy for him But today its a completely different story. I have started missing him and i haven't missed him in such along Time. I started thinking about all the memories my daughters father and i had together. I also feel like i don't Feel the same way about my boyfriend as i did before he went back home. Yesterday i was missing my boyfriend and thinking about how he is the one for me because he makes so happy, happier then i have ever been before. Can anyone tell me why i am feeling this way?
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (20 June 2013):
 I think the fact your ex (your daughters father) has had a new baby, it's made the fact he has moved on very real.
You are going through current difficulties with your new partner so it hilights that all is not going well and perhaps you are having a bit of internal panic that your ex is doing better than you.
Your break up with him was difficult and often we block out the good with the bad when we are dealing with emotional pain...now those good times are returning to your memory and in the absence of a happy relationship now, they are making you yearn for the past.
Give yourself some time to get things into perspective, your ex has gone and wont be back. Focus on your current relationship and see if things can be fixed...if they can't, perhaps it's time to end it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2013): It could be you're having feelings of regret, or perhaps jealousy, that (for the moment) your baby daddy's new girlfriend has a man in her life while you don't and his new kid has a father in his/her life while your daughter doesn't.
Also, the recent birth of your ex's child has eliminated the chance of reconciling with him any time soon, and in
the recent absence of his immediate successor you are once again beginning to experience the cold harsh reality of life as a young unmarried mother raising a kid on your own, so it is quite understandable that you'd be wishing things had turned out differently, that baby daddy was still a part of your and your daughter's lives now and for the foreseeable future as you assumed he would be not so long ago.
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