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writes:I have met a new girl recently who I am beginning to like. My last girlfriend hurt me so badly it really messed me up for a long time. With this girl - I think she likes me (she flirts alot and makes suggestions so at least I think she is attracted to me : whether it would just be sex or she wants something more I am not sure) I am really scared of getting hurt again after the last time as it is so bad. With this new girl - of course she isnt my ex but there are many similarities that I see in her and my ex which caused me getting hurt. Also I would want a relationship as I am not into casual sex and I know in the past she has cheated on her last ex. The more time I spend around her the more I get to know her and like her yet the more I am scared of these feelings because I sense she is the sort of person that would hurt me because of certain things I have observed about her nature. So I am not sure if I should just stay away from her or how to alienate those feelings I am starting to have for her. As at this point in my life I really would not be able to cope with someone breaking my heart. So not sure how to deal with this situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): It sounds like you have reservations about this girl and are not ready for a relationship yet.
It might be worth finding out why she cheated. This could be easier when you are not in a relationship and not as close. Do you know that she would hurt you, or is the fear coming from your past hurt?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 If you fear that you will be hurt ,you are not ready for any serious relationship. You need more time. Put her on hold .Just think of her as a friend and no more.
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reader, elliebellie  +, writes (15 January 2008):
hey
first of all when entering any new relationship you have to take some sort of chance. she might display signs in her nature that makes you think shes like the girl you knew before, but what ive learnt with a lot of people is that when you get to know them properly they can be really different. i would go for it and if she really is like your ex then end it immediatly. if she asks why tell her youve had your heart broken by the same sort of person as her before. nothing nasty just the truth.
good luck
hope this helps
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ellie
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