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writes:I am rather shy, and I have very poor confidence in myself. I'm the tall,skinny,quiet kid who is good in school, I'm sure you know the type. I'm afraid of asking girls out, and what they would think of me if I did, although I have no problem talking to them normally.I'm not very good looking, and this contributes to my poor confidence. I hope that someone can help me.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 if you say that you can talk to them normally then you could try dropping in hints that you could go out - u dont even have to make it sound like a date try things like talking about interests you both like - movies, music, sport etc and say something like 'why dont we go and check it out together, it would be great fun'? one thing you should remember is that while girls are attracted to looks, its the personality that makes us fall for guys! also try going out in groups of guys/girls and get used to interacting with them in the social scene - you sound like such a lovely guy and you will find someone to be with!! email me and we can talk further k? xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007): I notice that you have a strong idea about some kind of 'category' you fit into and whilst I know this is typical of society generally it will not help your low self esteem. Try and see yourself in new and positive ways - experimenting with clothes, music and sport so that you understand there are many things that make you unique, interesting and attractive. Whenever I think about having to say something to someone or doing something and I'm scared about it I imagine the very worst thing that could happen - I really imagine it deeply and confront it head on in the safety of my own mind. Once I've done this - faced my fears and thought "Ok yes I can handle it either way" I find that my original fear has halved in size. Try this - I hope it works. By the way most girls will be really flattered you've taken an interest in them. Be polite. Be yourself.
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reader, down to earth  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 so i see you hav low self-esteem but as you have told me you can talk to girls normally but when you want to ask them out you have a problem i bet you are a really nice boy you just need to gain confidence because you will never what a girl will say till you try .
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (16 July 2007):
 I was the same at school and in the end never really dated until I got to upper school and fell in with the wrong crowd.
If there is a girl you really like drop suttle hints while talking to her that you like her and see how she reacts. Or flirt with her a little.
It's hard gaining the confidence to ask someone out that you like, especially when you are scared they will laugh at you or something. But you only live once.
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reader, angel of love  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 honestly you should give it a try..you'll never know what could happen...girls are just as nerves as guys are to ask someone to go out with them...but i once heard this saying that nothing ventured is nothing gained...sure the first few trys may be rejected but you gain knowledge on what to do and not to do when asking someone out...and maybe there is a girl that likes you that you know but is just to afraid of rejection just like you...so give it a try and join the love game...because in order to know how to play you have to practice and practice somemore...love is like a sport if you don't practice you'll never get it right...always here to help..~*ANGEL OF LOVE*~
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